Secular Sexuality

(NSFW) A no-taboo approach to sexual education and health.

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Sex for fun and non-procreation!

In this world, we can't get away from religion. We've been exposed to false information regarding contraception failure rates and experienced the STD scare tactics. Some of us may even have gone through abstinence-only sex education!

Here in Secular Sexuality we will discuss:

-sexual health in light of peer-reviewed science
-safe for work guides on safe(r) sex (or links)
-questions that would shock the religious

This discussion forum is moderated. Unsophisticared trolls and judging other people will not be tolerated. If you would like to see a topic addressed, or have a question, add it to the comment wall, or message an admin.

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The other side-women and sexual freedom.

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Sex Tips

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Ezekiel 23:20 – Bible Porn?

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What do you yell in bed?

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FREEOK 2013 - Emily Boyer: "Secular Facts on Sexual Acts"

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gender reveal parties

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Men have sex and women make love. Or do they?

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Clits 101

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On sexual objectification and subjectivication

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Does sex keep you younger?

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Music during sex

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How flirty is too flirty for a married person?

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Sexual Harassment and Assault at Hooters

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Comment by Abdallah Zane on August 7, 2009 at 7:10am
I hope to learn a lot about sexuality in this group.As an african sex is one of the subjects that are not discussed freely and most people suffer with unanswered questions for long.I hope to get a lot insight on this forbidden topic.
Comment by Blake Mitchell on August 4, 2009 at 4:00pm
are there any atheist in Princeton or Trenton?

I am trying to get a meet up going and right now we have 4 people including me. I want to get a few more people if possible.Head over to the New Jersey Atheists discussion forum and make a post.
Comment by Sheryl on August 2, 2009 at 8:49pm
Gay Marriage vs. Traditional Power, Authority
An interesting article about why Christians fear gay marriage.
Comment by Gecko, of Richie! on July 2, 2009 at 4:56pm
I agree with meabh, in that there needs to be a conversation between the two parties. If accommodation cannot be reached than the next step is analyzing the marriage.
I can not imagine keeping my wife from sexual enjoyment if I for some bizzar twist of fate stopped enjoying it. Of course I want her to enjoy it any way she wishes now, but that's just me.
Comment by Little Name Atheist on July 2, 2009 at 10:38am
Hmmm... maybe Realizer's question would be better posted as a discussion in the Secular Sexuality Discussion Forum, as I can see this going on for a bit.
Comment by Angie Jackson on July 2, 2009 at 10:27am
@Realizer - Well it's certainly disrespectful and has the potential to be tremendously hurtful also. Do the feelings of the wife matter to this fellow?
Comment by Little Name Atheist on July 2, 2009 at 1:57am
Realizer: Is it permissible to look around and try to find a lady about the same age in the same situation? Is it sinful, is it illegal, is it immoral, actually is it socially acceptable?

How does his wife feel? If they made a monogamous commitment to each other, then he should probably discuss this with her before going outside the marriage for sex. If she disagrees, then he may have to reconsider his desire for another human being to have sex with, or his marriage. If she agrees, I don't see any issue with it, as long as he is upfront about his situation with any future lovers.
Comment by Joshua on July 1, 2009 at 10:37pm
I really don't like viewing the last 3000 or so years of human history. This age is a competition of ideals that really began in the Middle East long before Egypt was a global power and extends all the way up unto this day. For this time, the name of the game is centralized control, which is what you see across almost all areas of our society, including sexuality. I think that prior to the rise of civilization, humankind would have been much more innocent and open minded about sexual experiences. I doubt severely that many humans would lock themselves into a monogamy or hetero/homosexuality. To look at our closest relatives, it is highly suggestive that the female orgasm mechanism is based upon a model of multiple simultaneous/successive partners and the shape of the male glans is designed to act as a scoop, reducing the likelihood of competitors sperm making it to a fertile ova. Honestly, I think that it is very likely that humans were much like chimps/bonobos, pretty much anything went, so long as no one complained.
Comment by Realizer on July 1, 2009 at 10:16pm
A hypothetical situation...Suppose we have a male in his mid 60s stuck by econonomic necessity to stay married to a wife who HATES sex. Is it permissible to look around and try to find a lady about the same age in the same situation? Is it sinful, is it illegal, is it immoral, actually is it socially acceptable?
My theory about Adultery is it was made sinful so the prophet and his minnions could keep the hoards away from their harems. I would be willing to bet that homosexuality was not so prevelant by choice, but rather by necessity, ie all the nubile ladies were locked up in harems.
So if this person is not destined to eternity in hell, then the only visible risk is getting beat up or shot, is this acceptable behavior? (not the getting beat up or shot,but looking around)
Comment by Gecko, of Richie! on July 1, 2009 at 9:33pm
Despite the fact that most brothels were staffed with slaves both male and female , has nothing to do with the fact that Romans and Greeks both engaged in such behavior. And found it acceptable.
Govt. regulated prostitution would work just fine as it does in Amsterdam.

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