Secular Sexuality

(NSFW) A no-taboo approach to sexual education and health.

Members: 667
Latest Activity: Jun 23

Sex for fun and non-procreation!

In this world, we can't get away from religion. We've been exposed to false information regarding contraception failure rates and experienced the STD scare tactics. Some of us may even have gone through abstinence-only sex education!

Here in Secular Sexuality we will discuss:

-sexual health in light of peer-reviewed science
-safe for work guides on safe(r) sex (or links)
-questions that would shock the religious

This discussion forum is moderated. Unsophisticared trolls and judging other people will not be tolerated. If you would like to see a topic addressed, or have a question, add it to the comment wall, or message an admin.

Message The Nerd if you want an invite to the X-rated group, for topics not allowed on Atheist Nexus.

Discussion Forum

Nudity USA vs europe

Started by Gwen. Last reply by Joseph P Mar 18. 25 Replies

(book) Sex at Dawn

Started by Christian Overbey. Last reply by tom sarbeck Mar 16. 6 Replies

Circumcision doesn't reduce penis sensation

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Joseph P May 13, 2016. 4 Replies


Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Joseph P Mar 31, 2016. 14 Replies

What do you yell in bed?

Started by Angie Jackson. Last reply by Ram Bansal Dec 4, 2015. 138 Replies

Why is this funny?

Started by Michael Pianko. Last reply by Joseph P Oct 4, 2015. 10 Replies

Pot Lube

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Joseph P Jan 18, 2015. 1 Reply

Genital Video Game Controllers

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Jan 3, 2015. 0 Replies

The other side-women and sexual freedom.

Started by Cheryl Kerkin. Last reply by SBMontero Dec 20, 2014. 39 Replies


Started by BJ Saylor. Last reply by Joseph P Jul 7, 2014. 17 Replies

Sex Tips

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Grinning Cat Jun 10, 2014. 6 Replies

Ezekiel 23:20 – Bible Porn?

Started by Garaidh Mac an tSaoir. Last reply by Gwaithmir May 14, 2014. 5 Replies


Started by Pockets. Last reply by Mink Laubenthal Jan 16, 2014. 30 Replies

Comment Wall


You need to be a member of Secular Sexuality to add comments!

Comment by TNT666 on October 23, 2011 at 12:32pm

One aspect that constantly annoys me with the hysteria over pedophilia is that the media and many do-gooder parents confound all age groups under the arbitrary "statutory rape" category dictated by modern Christian sensitivities. Our modern society, in the context of our prolonged life under medical maintenance, has created a shift in the expectations of youths' behaviours. As a society we infantilise teenagers and 'tweens'. We don't even need to look back more than a century to find that sexual activity, historically, always began as soon as puberty was started, and explorations happened before puberty. Physically, from the onset of hormonal changes, the bodies of humans are ready for sexual activity. BUT in a society which infantilises youth, these youth are not mentally prepared for this aspect of their lives. This is the abstinence approach to sexuality and it is unhealthy. Of course for a youth who is mentally unprepared for sexual activity, any sex (not just from adults) will be unhealthy and traumatising. Before our uber-protective, 'moms against this and that' society, kids were prepared for sexual activity, through rituals, even before puberty, in order to be ready, to be mentally primed, for that sexual activity.


The mental priming is everything. It's not just a matter of age... a 20 y/o virgin who's not mentally prepared for sexual activity will also be traumatised by sexual activity.


As in many areas of debate, the bottom line is knowledge. Lack of knowledge always leads down a faulty path, knowledge and preparedness is the absolute best protection of one's sanity in life. So please, parents:

-stop infantilising your offspring past infancy, there comes a time when they're no longer infants

-stop letting your mind be warped by stupid low-brow TV shows such as To Catch a Predator

Both behaviours do a disservice to your tweens and teens.


Of course, as Bethany stated, a 10 y/o is generally pre-pubescent, but on a bell curve, there is a slight change that this 10y/o is verging on readiness for sexual activity, especially given that the age of puberty has been dropping since several decades. I've known several guys in my life who were being sexually exploratory at that age, so I hope you've readied him :)


As a society we need to do away with this hysteria and look at sexuality as a normal occurrence in animal life, from a quite early age. I don't expect this kind of maturity from a religious person, but I do from atheists.

Comment by Joseph P on October 23, 2011 at 9:04am
That would be Juan Pablo (for what little that means).  It would seem that he or someone else finally deleted the discussion, possibly the account.  Pity.  You should have seen Egan jump to his defense.  :-D
Comment by TNT666 on September 12, 2011 at 2:09am

10 sexiest male atheists... over half I agree with... which is pretty good in my book :)


Comment by TNT666 on August 31, 2011 at 6:18pm

Well, from a promiscuous female perspective... I've noticed two things: firstly-having watched lots of Caucasian porn (generally cut) and African-American porn (generally intact) I do notice a difference of "roughness" in the act of copulation and in the general handling of the woman, secondly, IME I have noticed a similar trend. Is it life imitating porn? I don't think so. I had only ever known cut men in my life until my 30s, generational thing, but being with intact men has changed a lot about my sex life.


It's too late to effectively change the conditions for cut men, but we can insure that men in the future need not suffer that. It's unfortunate San Franciscans did not win the right to ban circumcision, that would have been a huge step forward away from religion meddling with health. But that was just the first try, an ice breaker.

Comment by tom sarbeck on August 31, 2011 at 5:49pm

Not hostile. I like the idea of people enjoying mind-blowing orgasms in whatever consensual, safe, and non-criminal ways they can. In my post-retirement work for more than a year as a sex educator, I spoke by phone with people about ways to have them. I also dealt with the issue of rough sex, which some grown men feared was a result of their masturbating too often when they were young.

In my work, which I often described as a wonderful remedy for the consequences in my life of twelve years in Catholic schools, when the subject was the effect on orgasms of not cutting or cutting penile flesh, I did not change the subject to orgasms resulting from stimulating other parts of the body. I especially did not tell callers that what they'd said did not hold. Your bad.

I answered the way I did because doing so took only moments, and because A/N made it possible.

BTW, the training for the work required several times the number of classroom hours in human sexuality that medical students get. Local colleges gave under-graduate credit for the training and work; and working registered nurses could get continuing ed credits for it.

For more info, visit


Comment by Sean Murphy on August 31, 2011 at 1:02pm
Sarbeck may have been attempting a joke based on The Nerd's comment of being "cut" in combination with the orgasms from a goose feather applied to his anus. I know there have been plenty of times I have made jokes based on connections that felt intuitive and obvious, only to have everyone else stare at me blankly because nobody else made the same connections...
Comment by dr kellie on August 31, 2011 at 10:00am

I don't understand either part of Sarbeck's response to the goose feather post.  Anal flesh?  Usual place?  The whole thing seems hostile and I can't figure out why it would be.

Comment by tom sarbeck on August 31, 2011 at 12:56am
Hey, Nerd, when did circumcisers start taking anal flesh? Does a goose feather applied to the usual place do it for you?
Comment by Garaidh Mac an tSaoir on August 14, 2011 at 5:05pm
DISCOVERY CHANNEL’S, Curiosity, “promises a television experience unlike any other”. Episode 1 premiered on August 7th, with Stephen Hawking and “Did God Create the Universe”. Episode 3, “Why is Sex Fun”, hosted by Maggie Gyllenhaal, airs on August 21st.
Comment by AgeOfAtheists14 on August 11, 2011 at 8:44am

Members (667)



Update Your Membership :




Nexus on Social Media:


© 2017   Atheist Nexus. All rights reserved. Admin: Richard Haynes.   Powered by

Badges  |  Report an Issue  |  Terms of Service