Secular Sexuality

(NSFW) A no-taboo approach to sexual education and health.

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Sex for fun and non-procreation!

In this world, we can't get away from religion. We've been exposed to false information regarding contraception failure rates and experienced the STD scare tactics. Some of us may even have gone through abstinence-only sex education!

Here in Secular Sexuality we will discuss:

-sexual health in light of peer-reviewed science
-safe for work guides on safe(r) sex (or links)
-questions that would shock the religious

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Why is this funny?

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Pot Lube

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Genital Video Game Controllers

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The other side-women and sexual freedom.

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Sex Tips

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Ezekiel 23:20 – Bible Porn?

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What do you yell in bed?

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FREEOK 2013 - Emily Boyer: "Secular Facts on Sexual Acts"

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gender reveal parties

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Men have sex and women make love. Or do they?

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Clits 101

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On sexual objectification and subjectivication

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Does sex keep you younger?

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Music during sex

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Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on June 10, 2014 at 10:47pm

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on May 4, 2014 at 4:55pm

Comment by tom sarbeck on April 14, 2014 at 7:49pm


Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on April 14, 2014 at 1:16pm

Comment by tom sarbeck on April 1, 2014 at 12:18pm

Size does matter?

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on March 31, 2014 at 6:35pm

Comment by tom sarbeck on March 20, 2014 at 6:28pm

I like the pizza metaphor, but do I have to stop saying pizza's number one purpose is to burn peoples' mouths?

Comment by Idaho Spud on March 20, 2014 at 4:31pm

Good TED talk.  Something I never thought about before.  Pizza metaphor does sound much better.

Comment by Grinning Cat on March 20, 2014 at 3:04pm

Al Vernacchio's TED talk about a positive, inclusive, communicative, delicious metaphor for sexuality is a very worthwhile eight minutes!

In the US sex is often compared to "first base", "scoring", etc., a competition with strict rules, only for the skilled and fit, with winners and losers. We can do better! "Baseball, yer out!" Let's talk about... pizza.

"Sex needs a new metaphor. Here's one..." (video)

(Thanks to Joan Denoo for sharing that in "LGBTQI atheists, nontheists, and friends".)

A good complementary article elaborating on these concepts: "To Slide or to Slice? Finding a positive sexual metaphor" by Carly Dreyfus.

Comment by Grinning Cat on February 22, 2014 at 11:09pm

A great podcast!

An interesting note about the variations possible among cultures, about 31 minutes into the show, in response to a question about how often men and women think about sex:

"In the Mangaian culture in the South Pacific, women are voracious. And the rule of that particular culture, that's been there for hundreds of years, long before Western contact came to that particular island, the rule was, a girl could have as many boyfriends as she wants, there's hardly any taboos around sexuality there, even for young kids to have sex anytime they want, but ... the rule was, the boy was expected to give the girl at least three orgasms for every one orgasm that he has."

Sounds sex-positive to me!

Dr. Ray next mentioned the Na culture in China [on the border with Tibet], whose traditional "visiting marriage" system had no husbands as we know them. Siblings stay together through adulthood, men visit their lovers at night, and the uncles are the primary male figures in the children's lives.

(But see also: The Na of Southwest China: Debunking the Myths. While "visiting marriage", in which fathers do have specific roles from time to time, is the preferred type of partnership, others exist as well. Significantly, "notions of exclusivity are not entrenched, and the Na language has no word for 'jealousy'.")


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