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A group that is all about the cheery subject of death. Let's talk about the inevitable event and help each other deal with it.

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How doctors die

Started by Buford Twain. Last reply by Joan Denoo Mar 21, 2016. 2 Replies the article:"It’s not a frequent…Continue

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Body Disposal Carbon Footprint

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Mar 13, 2016. 10 Replies

You could drive almost 4,800 miles on the energy used to cremate one person.This surprised me. I'd imagined cremation as green, since it doesn't compete with food production, or require mowing grass…Continue

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Death with Dignity (Physician assisted death)

Started by Daniel W. Last reply by kathy: ky May 5, 2014. 4 Replies

Oregon and Washington both have laws in place allowing suicide by lethal prescription, so-called physician-assisted suicide.  These laws are known as Death with Dignity.  Oregon State published FAQs…Continue

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Dead Celebrities

Started by Buford Twain Mar 24, 2013. 0 Replies

There's a web site for just about anything...…Continue

Einstein's death

Started by Buford Twain Feb 14, 2013. 0 Replies

from wikipedia's article on Einstein:On 17 April 1955, Albert Einstein experienced internal bleeding caused by the rupture…Continue

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Locked-in syndrome sufferer Tony Nicklinson dies after losing appeal for assisted suicide

Started by Buford Twain. Last reply by Grinning Cat Aug 22, 2012. 1 Reply

Interesting how we don't yet have the right to call it quits...(in most countries).…Continue

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Natural Burial Info - an alternative to casket burial or cremation

Started by Buford Twain. Last reply by Valerie Cantone Dec 13, 2011. 3 Replies

Here is a description of natural burial from"A modern natural burial is an environmentally sustainable alternative to…Continue

51 hours left to live

Started by Buford Twain. Last reply by Scary Guy Mar 6, 2011. 1 Reply

An "ask me anything" discussion thread started by a person dying soon of terminal cancer.If you have a question now's the time to ask it. …Continue

Burial at sea - from Maine to Miami

Started by Daniel W. Last reply by Daniel W Sep 5, 2010. 2 Replies

Given how much we remove from the sea, it's nice to see some people returning there. …Continue

Walmart caskets?

Started by Buford Twain. Last reply by Buford Twain Sep 5, 2010. 3 Replies

Walmart is selling caskets now (at their online store):…Continue

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Comment by Randall Smith on September 29, 2017 at 6:58am

As you probably know by now, Hugh Hefner died on Sept. 27th. I googled him (Wikopedia) to uncover his religious beliefs, but found little. He was obviously very liberal. Farewell, Hugh.

Comment by Donald L. Engel on August 5, 2016 at 12:59am

It's "Don", and you are welcome.

Comment by kathy: ky on August 4, 2016 at 6:31pm
Thanks Donald.
Comment by Donald L. Engel on August 4, 2016 at 12:12pm

When my uncle was in the same condition your friend is in, he stayed home, and my cousin and I took care of him for two months until he died.  Hospice brought in a gurney (sp) so that he was at a higher level for us to work with him.  That was in Washington state.  I would contact hospice to see how they can help.

Comment by kathy: ky on August 4, 2016 at 11:08am
Thanks Daniel. I'll see what can be done. Im really having a hard time with this. She's the only friend I have left who's close to my age. We've been friends for over thirty years and she's going down fast now.
Comment by kathy: ky on August 3, 2016 at 8:40pm
My dearest friend is dying of cancer. Her Dr suggested hospice but she isn't ready for it. The cancer spread to her spine a few weeks ago and she's having trouble getting up from her chair now and getting weaker everyday.

Does anyone know which of her DR's would be the most likely to get her a lift chair?? I just thought I'd throw this out and see if anyone knows. I'm going to stop by the local hospice office tomorrow and see if I can find out there.
Comment by Donald L. Engel on March 21, 2016 at 10:47am

It was a couple of years ago. 

Comment by Randall Smith on March 21, 2016 at 7:08am

Nice story, Donald. How long ago did this happen?

Comment by Donald L. Engel on March 21, 2016 at 12:28am

My mother moved into a full-care facility during her last two years.  She was entering into dimentia when she moved in.  After about a year, she was well into the dimentia, and my sister heard that if you give a doll to a woman in this stage, it seems to calm them down.  So, she brought mom a little boy doll, and sure enough it worked.  She explained that the little boy saw her, and loved her and wanted to live with her.  Mom accepted that without question.  So my sister wheeled her out into the general area.  Just then the lady in the adjoining room was coming out, and she said, "Oh, what a beautiful baby.  Who's the father?"  Mom's jaw dropped into her lap, and she never talked to that woman again.  She named the doll "Skookum".  She loved the doll, and would make comments like "He's been so fidgety today, I don't know why."  and we always knew what she had for dinner, because she was always trying to feed it to Skookum.  She had said several times that when she died, she wanted Skookum to be buried with her.

So, when she died, she was cremated, and I took the doll and cut the rubber feet, hands, and head off, and then burned the body in a coffee can.  We mixed the ashes of the doll with mom's ashes and put them all in an urn that I made out of walnut wood.

My step dad had died earlier, and his ashes were in a vault in a wall.  So when it was time to put Mom's ashes there, we opened the vault, and my sister said, "Hi, Dave, here's mom,  she'll explain the kid,"  And then we all had a good laugh.

That might sound cold to some of you, but it wasn't.  Mom would have loved it.  She was a real cut-up, and enjoyed things like that.  She died at 96, and was active right up to when she went into the home.

Comment by kathy: ky on March 15, 2016 at 12:52pm
Bart, that's to funny.

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