Killer Phrases

Killer Phrases

Words that kill imagination, creativity, exploration, and wonder in children also provide challenges for adults to overcome.  Faced with real world problems, we need every critical thought we can generate, even if it is outside the box.

The phrases become killers when used to shut people down, stop looking for better ways, terminate exploration, and close down wonder.

Killer Phrases 2012-04-22 update


Be ladylike.   (Emma Rosenthal)

Be practical...

Because I said so. (Richard Ewald)

Behave. (Loren Miller)

Children are to be seen and not heard (Richard C. Brown)

Crucify yourself daily.

Crucify yourself in imitation of the crucified Christ

Do you realize the paper it will create?

Don’t be so disruptive.   (Emma Rosenthal)

Don’t be so negative.   (Emma Rosenthal)

Don't be ridiculous.

Don't fight city hall.

Don't rock the boat.

Don't waste time thinking.

Focus on the positive.   (Emma Rosenthal)



Get a committee to look into this.

Get over it!

Great idea, but not for us.

Have you heard that one before? ex-xians. (Nerdless)

I am going to beat the bjesus out of you. (Richard C. Brown)

I don't have time.

If it ain't broke...

I'll get back to you.

I'm the one that gets paid to think.

It can't be done!

It has been like this since Cain and Abel!

it isn't the right time.  (Emma Rosenthal)

It'll be more trouble than it's worth.

It'll never fly.

It'll never work.

It's just human nature.  (Chris Barna)

It's not in the budget.

It's not your responsibility.

It's out of scope.

It's too far ahead of its time.

Just Remember things you love about your husband.

Kill them with love and kindness. (Richard C. Brown)

Let's get a committee to look into this.

Let's stick with what works.



Obviously, you misread my request.

Oh, you can’t reason with children. (Richard Ewald)

People don't want change.

Put it in writing.

Rejoice in your crucifixion.

That sounds like something my kids would say.

That’s not polite.   (Emma Rosenthal)

That's irrelevant.

That's not in your job description.

The boss will never go for it.

The competition will eat you alive.

The poor will be with us always!

They can kill u but can’t eat u. (Richard C. Brown).

This isn’t the time.

This isn't the place.   (Emma Rosenthal)

Turn the other cheek.

War is war!

We agree to disagree. (Richard Ewald)

We have to appeal to (white) middle America (though they never SAY ‘white.’)   (Emma Rosenthal)

We haven't got the manpower.

Well, that’s your opinion. (Richard Ewald)

Well-behaved women RARELY make history! (Loren Miller)

We've always done it this way!

We've done all right so far.

We've tried that before.

What will people say?

When we are weak, He is strong. (Nerdless)

Women should be silent in church.


You can't legislate morality!

You can't teach old dog new tricks.

You just want to make trouble!

You’re being divisive.   (Emma Rosenthal 

You’re too extreme.   (Emma Rosenthal)

You're too young.

You've got to be kidding.

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Comment by Loren Miller on March 17, 2015 at 6:28pm

I've heard this one more than once, including a guest shot in the movie, Twister:

"If I want your opinion, I'll give it to you!"

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 7, 2012 at 1:25am

Karol, I am very happy to have you join us as we explore language and how we can learn and develop strength and competence through awareness of its effects on us. Your statement about mental abuse being used on men as well as women is quite correct. Where men often use physical force to gain control, women often use language as their weapon of choice. 
I look forward to the time when men and women do not seek control, but rather seek solution to problems so all have their needs me. 

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on November 6, 2012 at 10:39pm

Welcome aboard, Karol. Good to hear from you.

Comment by Karol Pankowski on November 6, 2012 at 10:12pm

Hi all, I've just joined the AN and have to say: what a great group Killer Phrases is! I think it is not only about spousal abuse, this kind of mental  abuse can be used on men as well. It can be used to "shut down" whole groups of people, even entire societies. One would think they are just words but it is rather shocking how harmful and devastating it can be.

Some of the things you said Joan have become "big quotes" for me:

"Verbal violence creates so many hidden wounds that are hard to get to."

"Faced with real world problems, we need every critical thought we can generate."

"Words that kill imagination, creativity, exploration, and wonder in children also provide challenges for adults to overcome."

Brilliant. Kudos to you and keep them coming!

Comment by Nerdlass on March 21, 2012 at 11:50pm

Though the original intent is to encourage the faithful, those who doubt are shut down with this phrase:

When we are weak, He is strong.

Have you heard that one before, ex-xians?

Comment by Joan Denoo on March 21, 2012 at 11:21pm

Ouch! Verbal violence creates so many hidden wounds that are hard to get to. The bruises present easy evidence. thanks for the graphic. 

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on March 21, 2012 at 11:07pm

Here's a striking image for verbal violence


Comment by Richard ∑wald on March 18, 2012 at 4:34pm

"I know the fallacies aren't in error, I am."

Logical fallacies are just heuristics, it isn't just how an argument is framed that makes it valid, invalid. Logic is a kind of proof, same with "calling" someone on a logical fallacy, one needs to prove the proposition is invalid.

Once this is understood, it becomes much easier to spot others errors in reasoning, as well as avoiding employing them one's self.

Comment by Joan Denoo on March 18, 2012 at 3:39pm

Richard, yes, one can reason with even a very young child, even as many people disagreed with me. My cousin said I had to hit them up the side of the head to get their attention, but that just makes no sense to me. How is a child to learn if they don't learn from their parents and early.
I like your understanding of logical fallacies even as many of them make no sense to me. I know the fallacies aren't in error, I am. That is why I, and the women in my family suffered so unnecessarily for generations. I am gullible to a fault and fall for the snake oil way too often. Glad to have a community of people who take time to make a case and stand on principle. 
My daughter was ten years old in 1974, she put her hands on her hips, her nose just level with her father's bright and shiny army belt buckle, looked up at him so they were eye to eye even though at different heights and said, "You don't have the right to treat me this way!" I was overwhelmed! I had never said that to anyone. Within a few months, I packed the kids in the car and left. that was 38 years ago.  
I have always known my kids were smarter than I, and she proved it.  

Comment by Richard ∑wald on March 18, 2012 at 2:19am

I remember her friend's parents always asking me why she was so polite, never "acted out" or needed a "time out". I said, "I've always reasoned with her".

They always say, "Oh, you can't reason with children…"

You can, if you lay the foundation for it early on and stay consistent and respectful to your kids.


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