Loners and Introverts

Group for those who are Introverted and those of us who are Loners. Someone who doesn't need other people around them to validate their own existence.

Has anyone told you that you need to change into an Extrovert?

I told someone I was an Introvert recently and guess what the response was?

Well, it was like this ... you can always change, you can become an Extrovert.

Oh great.

They obviously have no understanding of Introverts.

Anyone have this happen to them? What did you do?


Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
A world without Introverts would be a world with few scientists, musicians, artists, poets, filmmakers, doctors, mathematicians, writers, and philosophers. That being said, there are still plenty of techniques an Extrovert can learn in order to interact with Introverts. (Yes, I reversed these two terms on purpose to show you how biased our society is.) Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.



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    Anthony Jordan

    I'm an introvert, and I see nothing wrong with being so.

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      Prog Rock Girl

      I remember someone telling me I'll never get anywhere in life if I'm shy.

      Oh well, I can't be anyone other than me...

      A person can't turn into an extrovert (and if I ever did suddenly feel extroverted, because of family history I'd immediately think it was a manic phase). Although I did stop being "painfully shy", mostly due to not being in middle school (and trying to disappear) anymore. Since most environments are not as horrible as middle school, and I feel more confident and better socially skilled (in my own, not extremely extroverted way) I don't feel afraid to speak like I did.

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        Kyrie Smith

        You can certainly change your behavior to appear more extroverted. I learned that skill. It won't change natural inclinations though.