Darrel Ray


Bonner Springs, KS

United States

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  • Noelle

    Dr Ray, I am interested in talking to you about your book and the recovery groups. Can you please e-mail me at secularcenterusa@gmail.com? Thanks!
  • Free Thinker

    Dr. Ray,
    I am looking forward to your book tour. And I will be telling everyone in my about your book. Thank you for having the boldness and courage to share your insights on Religion.
  • Laura

    Thanks for the add! I'll post a link to your site on mine! :)
  • david brooklyn

    Thanks you for the friend request. I am looking forward to reading your book soon.
  • Rayray

    Thanks for the link! I'll check it out.
  • Rayray

    Good luck with your book!
  • david brooklyn

    Great interview on the Infidel Guy last Thursday. I've listened to it a couple of times and still catch nuances in the material.
  • Mac Rex

    Hi Darrel,
    Thanks for the add. I joined Recovering from Religion so that I could reply to Rich's post. I didn't grow up with the religion meme, so I don't know how appropriate it is for me to be part of this group.
  • Mac Rex

    Oh, and I'll be buying you book today too. It looks like a good add to my book collection!
  • L.Hunter

    thanx for the friend request. i tried to change my picture, but the site would not take it. I'll try again tomorrow.
  • Seth R.

    Darrel, I want to thank you for your insightful and inspirational talks, you have been very helpful to me in reconciling my past affiliations. I was in a christian cult for 20 years and many of the things you are saying about indoctrination and hypnosis I've been saying to my ex-member friends for years. I look forward to reading your book.

  • Darrel Ray

    Now that you mention it, I do remember. Didn't recognize you in your photo. Glad you found the book useful. Slaughterhouse Five is a great read but much of Vonnegut is excellent. I reread Cat's Cradle every couple of years.
  • Darrel Ray

    I posted it with all the local groups and on this site as well. Sorry you missed. They had great attendance.
  • Gwendolyn Gallagher

    Mr. Ray, I have just finished and enjoyed The God Virus. Thank you. But I am very curious. "Carrie" found enlightenment by reading a book loaned to her by a friend. It must have been a more than usually persuasive book, as she was a committed religionist and read it unwillingly. I think books have most influence if the reader is already questioning, uneasy about the previously accepted belief, and the door to new ideas is open. So I would like to know, what is the book that she read?
  • Ray Bradley

    Dr. Ray,
    I enjoyed your talk at the Atlanta Freethought Society and enjoyed your book even more. Your insight to the self-preservation aspect of the religious virus was particularly enlightening. Ironically, while recently reading Ollie North's Under Fire , I ran across an especially good example of this. In chapter 8, LTC North criticizes Nancy and Ronald Reagan for consulting astrologers. He then says "For the life of me, I can't understand how a man who purports to be a Christian can believe in that malarkey. . . the idea that a man could get up in the morning and let an interpretation of the great sidereal movement guide his day is simply beyond my understanding." I am sure it is!

  • Robert Posey

    I saw that your video with The Atheist Experience is getting a LOT of views on youtube! Great job.... Keep up the good work! I wish that I could have made the speech you gave in Huntsville but I couldn't get off of work. I'm sure I will see you around sometime... We must have an Alabama... atheist convention style throw down again! haha.
  • mwg

    I received the "I Survived The God Virus" shirt yesterday, and am looking forward to warmer weather so that I can wear it.
  • Darrel Ray

    Thanks for letting us know and sorry about the delay on our end. We almost always fulfill order on the same business day they come in.
  • Matthew Harder

    Excellent lecture today in Memphis. Thanks for signing my book and I'm glad to have given you some good news about it being carried in book stores!
  • Skeptical Deb

    Yes, yes, yes....see you tonight. Looking forward to it! I was searching for your speaking schedule and see that you will be in So California the next few days. I'm letting some friends know. Travel safely!!
  • Lyn Yancha

    Thanks for the welcome! I'll be moving back to Anchorage, AK and would like to find like-minded people there. I'll most likely start at the UU fellowship. All the best!
  • Noh Name

    Your book is helping me understand why I am going through what I'm going through right now. I just finished reading about the hypnosis techniques used by the church and part of me was saying "I remember them doing that." And another part saying "Why didn't I put that together myself? I knew about that technique." All I can say is I am very grateful that someone has written a book dedicated to understanding the process of de-conversion. So thank you.
  • Colleen Quinn

    Hi Darrel,
    Thanks for accepting my friend request. No, I have not read The God Virus yet but are familiar with you. I attended AAI in Burbank last October and American Atheists in Newark. But your book has been recommended to me by a good friend Noelle George of the Secular Center and I plan to pick it up this week. Nice to meet you!

    Hi Darrel and thanks for the addy and friendly welcome
  • Natalie

    Hi Darrel and thanks for friending me. I am currently reading "The God Virus" and also purchased and gave a copy to a friend. We are both "underground" in our community but her husband is also an atheist whereas mine is Christian (I'm the one who changed, not him). I'm looking forward to the discussions on Atheist Nexus and in the Recovering from Religion group!
  • Natalie

    Yes -- please let me know if you are coming to Houston in August. Even though I am not "out" in my community, I have joined some of the Houston Meet-Ups and heard that I missed you earlier this year. Thanks so much for your words of encouragement!
  • Adelita D

    Thanks! I am doing a lot of reading and looking around right now. Not sure about starting a group here myself, but we will see. :)
  • Henry Gallagher

    Hi Darrel - like the web site!
  • Franklin Bacon

    When a member of a religious group gives up his/her religion, could you tell us exactly how the void is filled? As one of these, I do try to fill it with reason, as opposed to authority, but there is always the other side to consider which tends to cancel out any acceptance of any position taken.
  • Richard Healy

    I'm not a recovering religionist I've been sceptical of all manner of things from about the age of 12 onwards but thanks for the friend request - and I'll take a look at the website.
  • Matthew

    Yes, I checked out your website, and like the concept a lot. It has definitely been a struggle for me coming out of religion. I might be interested in starting a group in my area when and if I find the time for it. Right now I'm going to the local skeptics club meetings, and that is working well for now...
  • Kevin Benbow

    I loved the "God" virus. Your book certainly resonates with my experience in fundamentalism.
  • Prometheus

    Thanks for adding me, sir.
  • Silas Richardson

    Dr. Ray thanks for your book: "the god virus: how religion infects our lives and culture". I have been on my atheist path for years. I stated one day I am done with religion. I have not completed the book yet but am almost done and will be passing it onto another friend. There are not many atheist in rural Wyoming but we are growing. Is this were I post about either comments or questions about your book?
  • Rachel

    Thank you for the friend invite! I am looking forward to reading your new book. I would love to start a group in my area but I live in an area that is rife with religion. So bad that an atheist billboard set off waves of fury. I am still in the closet so to speak, but in time.......looking forward to your podcast, too!!
  • James Croft

    Hey Darrel! If you haven't finished your study on sexuality and secularism I'd love to be a part of it! I have a very interesting personal story as a Humanist who was never religious, but who nonetheless struggled a lot before coming out as a gay man.





  • Dr. Cruise

    Thanks, Darrel. I tried to believe in God for years and even went so far as to join the Lutheran church. In the back of my mind I just knew there was something very very wrong with the church's view of evolution and other scientific topics. I started doing my homework and read everything I could get my hands on for months. Finally it just happened, I knew I was no longer a Christian and that there was no turning back. I actually felt a real sense of freedom and relief, but at the same time I was also very depressed. I am glad that I don't feel the need to try to rationalize my beliefs anymore. Thanks for adding me as a friend. The upcomming events you mentioned sounds like something I would be interesting in attending. I would like to know more about them.
  • Alex Harkleroad

    It's very nice to meet you Darrel! It's especially nice to meet an atheist who's just down the street. I'l definitely check out your book, I'm always looking for something interesting to read. I'm by no means on all things religion, but I do find the topic fascinating. If you could help lead me in the direction to some of the local atheist groups, I'd really appreciate it!
  • Mriana

    Darrel, I just blogged on your survey here: http://www.goddiscussion.com/63062/lets-talk-about-sex/ Don't let the title of the website fool, if you haven't been there before. The owner of the site is an atheist and she often talks about religious abuse on her Blog Talk Radio show.
  • Mriana

    You're welcome.  I tried to capture the essence of it.
  • Ruth Anthony-Gardner

    Greetings, Darrel! I'd like to invite you to a group where we talk about anything on our minds, Hang With Friends.
  • Richard Healy

    Your appearances on The Atheist Experience are some of my favourite episodes.    Downloaded the Sexand Secularism report today, shall read with interest.  Put the link up on facebook under the banner "Atheism is Sexy (Official)" got a few "wa-hoos" and "cools" Looking forward to seeing what else is to follow.

  • dr kellie

    Howdy.  I really like The God Virus.  It's on my coffee table.  I use it to come out.  I do appreciate it:)
  • Hope

    Hello, nice to meet

    I'd like to thank you for you comment and glad to be friends

    and yeah I am interested in sharing my story with you...you can ask me anything..

    I wrote about myself here

    I wish you all success



  • Steph S.

    Thanks for the Steve Jobs discussion. : )
  • Ed Sweeney

    I really enjoyed your talk at Free Inquiry Group's 20th Anniversay Celebration in Cincinnati.  I also enjoyed our discussion at lunch.
  • Steph S.

    I got your book from Amazon today! I can't wait to get started reading it!

  • Steph S.

    Ok -- I will read it fast so that I can get your new book! Thanks for telling me about it. I will put it on my wishlist right now!

  • Joseph P

    Uhhhh, am I the only one who misread 'Bonner Springs'?  Must be the influence of your area of recent study, bouncing around in my Freudian lobe.

  • Edwin Neumann

    Hi Darrel. Last month we breakfasted together at the Lowell Center in Madison, WI (Freethought Festival) and you mentioned that you might be able to help me get my novel published, or at least give me a contact agent or publisher who handles nontheist material. As we had no writing implements handy, we could not exchange contact info. Please respond when you can. Thanks.