"Being raised in a Christian household exposes you to strong familial tradition. Not to fear, keep working in the your current direction and your family will come to respect your choice, especialy when they know it is not just a whim. You need…"
"It's natural to have this fear, especially if you were raised by an orthodox family. In the Root Of All Evil, (on Youtube) Dawkins shows how fanatic and strange believers can get. One believer's job was to visit member churches and scare…"
"You just keep reminding yourself that those kinds of catch 22's are exactly the snares that keep people in religion and prevent them from having the courage to think for themselves. I swear I was atheist since I was ten years old, but the…"
"A favorite line in Mirror Reversal is "I know a good God couldn't send me to hell because I refused to abandon reason."
This heaven and hell stuff makes no sense at all. One dividend of leaving religion is you escape all the devil…"
"Thanks for sharing this. It sounds like what I hear from many people as I travel the country. It us just unfortunate that the brainwashing takes so many years to get over. I am not sure there are any shortcuts, but I continue to look for some."
"I just want to say that these are some great responses to Courtney's question. This is a problem for anyone leaving any religion - whether Islam, Christianity or a cult. The deep programming is designed to keep you in doubt and fear so that you…"
"Ask yourself a few questions and follow the trail of answers, starting with "Why did you believe in Christianity". Eventually (for me), the answers lead to "Because the bible says so (or at least I think it does...)" Next step,…"
"It really can (and must?) take years to re-wire, re-boot, Courtney. Religious addiction can lead to a long recovery process. The "Nature Chaplain" may help: "Religious Addiction," " "Life After Faith"…"
"Whatever you do don't lie about your belief. You don't have to confront people or anything, but at least be true to your self in that. I can pretty much tell you from my own experience that if you can get your mom to just leave you alone…"
"I assume you have spoken to her about how this is effecting your ability to have a relationship with her, not to mention your ability to choose not to have one when you don't live there. Or that you are unable to reasonably do so.
My mother and…"
"oh one more elaboration: I try to get them to see the "slave morality" of religion (THAT should stir some tempers) because god is this almighty aloof entity that doesn't feel good enough to reveal himself, so he sends his lap dogs to…"
"oh no... I can't pretend i would be brave enough to do that. I'm more used to the 20-30 sized small churches I used to go to.
The most important thing to know is that people care and we do. I can't say I have a lot of experience in…"
"@Johhny, I would love to...unfortunately the church (although held in a middle school auditorium) has a LARGE congregation and to raise a hand and speak with him is impossible. After service its hard to find in such a large crowd. Also we were…"
My mom does not respect my non-belief. She insists I go to church with her because all of a sudden her 'house rule' is that "As for me and my house we worship the Lord." To make matters worse the sermon from yesterday was focused on "Bringing children up in the worship" and that you should force you children to go to church. In fact, he said you should have them miss school before they miss church. I'm becoming increasing angry, frustrated and resentful of her. I never had anything against… Continue
Well about a week ago I came out and told my mom I was an Atheist. She didn't go off like I expected her to but she is none too pleased to say the least. She and I had a debate on Sunday when she had woke me up (ironically to go to church) and asked me then and there if I believed in God. Instinct told me to lie and say yes, but she said don't say it if it isn't true and I confessed. She heard me out and tried to argue me down. A couple of days later she asked me if I was ok with the fact that… Continue
I would like to read more books about Atheism and also some about sciences so I can understand and know more about what scientist are discovering. I only know of the basics of subjects such as evolution and the big bang theory. But I want to know what other things scientists are saying about our origins and get a deeper understanding about what little I do know. Does anyone have any Atheist authors or books about any of these things? Hopefully in the form of an ebook or article? I can't go to… Continue
No worries. IMO You've been very brave in coming out to your family with your lack of belief and what little I have to offer in terms of online transatlantic camaraderie as fellow atheist is yours to have. :-)
ahaha yeah i remember when i told my mom 6 years ago she was furious it was the longest month that she didnt talk to me. She said if u dont believe in jesus then you shouldnt care about christmas and i was nooooooooooooooooooo i still like to celebrate lol
There are many reasons why I don't believe. One being no evidence for a god. Another being, if there was a loving god, why does he allow suffering to happen on this earth?...stuff like that. How about you?
I kind of had to cry my way out of going to church. My parents rarely bother me about it now, but they say my aunts and uncle ask for me when they don't see me in church. I haven't told my extended family yet. I will tell them, if the topic ever comes up, and If they want nothing to do with me, I don't mind. I've got my immediate family, and that's enough for me :).
It took a while for me to 'come-out' to them, but I left hints (try that if you haven't) before that. I kept trying to get my mom to read www.evilbible.com, but she would have nothing to do with it. I told her to get her own bible and read it, but still nothing. Oh well... My dad is more of a 'social-christian'. Goes to church to meet people/ see his brother and sister. He knows the history of religion, but chooses to go with it, because of its convenience. -_-