Dara, I am glad to hear she is 5 1/2 now. I too have had a bunch to deal with in the last 12 months every six months like clock work. My son died Jan 09 - My mother died July 09 - My daughter's intestines riped open from severe crohns caused from stress Jan 10.
As far as the Christian Cult, they all tell me the same stuff, and I just reply with "I guess bad things never happen when you're a Christian?" That usually shuts them up. Christians tell me that if I found God (you know he's been lost for along time now) these things would not be happening., LOL
My father died at home of prostate cancer. My wife, mother and I took care of him through that whole thing. I was with my mother when she died of bladder cancer June 10 of 2007 and my uncle when he died of cancer September 30 of 2007. Each situation was different. I know I can't feel the same exact pain as you. It may or may not help to let you know that there are others out here who have gone through similar emotional, grueling, and exhausting experiences.