I am sorry to hear of the difficulties you are going through. I am not a professional in regards to your difficulties. I would suggest getting the proper pros involved regarding your health, finding a job for your wife, helping with your mortgage and the psychological toll these events may be having on both of you.
To your specific question regarding "the right way to find the meaning of life again," I don't think that is the correct question. I don't believe that life itself has inherent meaning. I believe that we give life meaning through our thoughts, actions and relationships. A better question may be "how do I give my life meaning again?"
There is likely no "right" way to do this, but there are many ways that it can be accomplished. You can provide meaning to your life by focusing on your relationships and providing love and empathy to those close to you. You can spend extra time doing things you enjoy and finding a spark of joy, perhaps that is listening to some music that has memories attached to it for you. You can find ways to make the lives of others better through charity work. Such work could focus on benefiting cancer research to help other victims. You can serve as an inspiration and hero to others who are in situations like yours by persevering with dignity and courage. You can look back and think of things that gave your life meaning when you were younger, then do those type of things again.
I can only give you some ideas. You will have to find for yourself what brings meaning to your life. I wish you the best in your quest,
Hello Goran and welcome to this friendly meeting place
where we recognise that religion is a fraudulent superstition for controlling people, and that it is tragic and inexcusable that women have been oppressed these last 2000 years.
Individuals who are aware of the consequences of their actions on other individuals, on the community and on the species are likely to behave in a more considerate, more reasonable and more ethical way.You are projecting your own expectations on to the other person. Each person is unique in her(his) wants, desires, view, etc. and likely has different expectations from you. Being aware of the consequences of your actions on the person is a better way than "do unto others as you would like done unto you"