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In this country is some discussion if home schooling should be forbidden. I think that's a good idea - I abhor monocultures and a family that isolates the children is a monoculture. The quality of…Continue

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Posted on August 17, 2017 at 4:29am 15 Comments

I’m too attractive to borderliners, I think. For the second time in six months a borderliner started to scream at me and attacked me with verbal abuse.

I never suspect a new contact to be a borderliner, but I make room for someone new, give them my attention and listen to what they want to tell me. Most of the time I listen and I don’t talk…



Posted on February 16, 2017 at 12:30pm 22 Comments

I´ve always thought of partner and myself as an ordinary hetero couple, even if my attention often wandered to women. Perhaps we still are the ordinary couple, but things can suddenly change in unexpected ways, even for people of over sixty.

On Januari 1 of this year we were still drinking wine with a couple of neighbours when our neighbour put off her wig in the overheated room - she is still in transition. Rien, who is usually not very spontaneous put on her wig, and suddenly all…



Posted on February 10, 2015 at 9:28am 12 Comments

I grew up in a fundie household in the 50s and 60s: parents, two brothers and myself. I quickly started to decode the things I was told. My mother said “we” when she meant herself and my father, my brothers said “we” when they meant “boys only”, and when my father said it, he meant himself, backed up by his god. It soon became clear that I was alone in my group.  I couldn’t be in a group with the girls at school…


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Posted on July 30, 2014 at 1:47am 5 Comments

We've been busy this year. Brother-in-law fell on his head in January and contracted brain damage..  So we went to the hospital (the rest of the family is dead or not interested) and kept contact with the staff, took decisions, shared information and did whatever was necessary. Then we went to his apartment and found that his cat was phobic about people, and the apartment was totally neglected, dirty and full of broken stuff. We found a cat-nanny who accepted the bizarre situation and tried…


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At 2:45pm on January 21, 2017, Chris said…

The good thing about living in the San Fancisco bay area is the diversity.

At 1:18pm on January 21, 2017, Chris said…

A name is nothing without a personality behind it.

Sorry if I'm stepping on yours.

Fortunately in my world I've met and have become friends with people from different cultural backgrounds.

It may be unfortunate that others haven't had the experience to meet people from other places.

I wish I had the oppertunity to meet you.

At 2:12am on October 24, 2016, BenGee said…

Thank you Plinius :)

At 10:22pm on July 5, 2015, Joan Denoo said…

Chris, I think you stated you did not know how to post a video or playlist. I ran across this instruction tonight and it may provide the answer to your statement. 

Embed videos and playlists

Add YouTube videos and playlists to a website or blog by embedding it.

Here’s how to embed a video:

Click the Share key under the video.

Click the Embed link.
Copy the code provided in the expanded box.
Paste the code into your blog or website.

Here’s how to embed a playlist:

Click Playlists on the left side of your YouTube page
Click the playlist title you'd like to embed.
Click the Share link.
Click the Embed link.
Copy the embed code that appears in the menu below.
Paste the code into your website or blog.

At 11:16am on January 22, 2015, Don said…

Thank you!  Let me say you're not too old for POLLY, Plinius.  It's a fairly sophisticated construction for YA, but, in any case, the popularity of the genre among adults has been much remarked on and discussed in recent years.  I've written about it on my blog.  There are some good links.  You may be interested:

"What explains the popularity of YA fiction?"

At 2:10pm on November 15, 2014, sk8eycat said…

Thank you for the kind offer, and friendship.  I will gladly accept friendship, but my rejection of cell phones is only partly financial.  I really detest the things! 

The arrogance of people who use them in public places, and thoughtlessly disturb everyone around them with meaningless chatter, are a symptom of a sick (as in "terminally ill") society.  When I was working in an electronics store 20+ years ago, I swore an oath on my cats that I would never own one of the pesky things.  I did consider getting a very inexpensive "emergency" phone while I was commuting to work, but now that I can no longer drive a car, or own one, I don't need a phone to call the Auto Club.

Our land line may go out once a year, and I can live with that.  and,if I stop breathing, I DO NOT WANT to be revived, anyway.  I'm wearing a MedicAlert bracelet that advises EMTs NOT to resuscitate me EVER.

That may sound stupid, but I have heard too many stories of people who have had CPR performed on them, and "come back to life" permanently brain damaged.  NOT moi!

But many thanks for the offer; that was a kind and very thoughtful thing to do.  You just didn't know about my peculiar weirdness regarding cell phones.  <3

At 10:04am on July 20, 2013, john kennedy opiyo said…

Keeping you in mind always is the point ,wishing you well mum

At 10:01am on July 20, 2013, john kennedy opiyo said…

l love you Chris but above all l would like to work with you on matters touching on the development of what both of us believe in,finally darling allow me to keep in a special place right inside my heart,,,,,,,,,,,,

At 11:28am on February 26, 2013, The Flying Atheist said…

Thank you for the nice message and the friend request.  I'm honored to be a part of this community with you.  --Carl

At 7:36pm on December 31, 2012, John Jubinsky said…

May you and yours have an extra happy new year Chris.



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