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I'm in this dating site called PlentyOfFish. Here was a guy's the first initial message:

After reading your profile I think you'll get that line and atheist = open minded. Great
taste in music as well, Fade To Black was the first Metallica song I ever heard and its
just beautifully written

I have to say, I had a lot of fun reading your profile and it caught my attention more
than once. I love to read, Isaac Asimov is brilliant and its so sad that I, Robot was made
from an amazing collection of stories into an advertising funded payday for Will Smith,
ditto I Am Legend. Started reading Stephen King from a young age and his non-fiction
book on writing inspired me to start my own work, which may just be a career.

I believe that all creative people are introverts, all creativity is an attempt to explain to
ourselves and others just how we see the world and often its an awkward process. You
can't do that unless you're constantly questioning your perceptions, motives, and self.
It can be a painful thing, and often social life is awkward because you're not as gullible
as everyone else.

I guess I'm lucky because I was raised Hindu which is more a belief system and much
more tolerant of questioning than Western religions, so it was an easy task to think for
myself and realize the idea of god was absurd, and George Carlin helped that along :)

Oh and Forest Hills is awesome, if you know where the Fairview apartment building is, I
lived there for 5 years and still miss it. And 108 St.

Ok I've rambled enough, as you can see I'm not into small talk either, if you like what

you've read and want to know more, we'll go from there. And I'm ****

Seems like a nice guy right?? Well I was busy for work for two days and was going to message this guy back and got this message:

yeah, well **** you, I'm out. Read your
atheist blog, you're single because your
depressed, antisocial and self absorbed.
Move away from yourself and see the world
and you'll find yourself in no time. My god,
27 and I've met more mature 17 year olds.
This may make me sound crazy, but as I've
leaving this site I care not. And heavy metal
is for children.

He signed out of the website the next day. Jeez, talk about being bipolar....

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Comment by Jonathan Davison on July 18, 2013 at 1:51am: There are plenty of fishy people on that site but hold firm - I met my wife on that site and I've been married for 5 years now. She is perfectly normal and thankfully as cynical as I am!

Comment by Alona Naga on April 9, 2011 at 5:13pm: Leave the dating websites alone. All the guy on there are predators or just plain creepy and all the girls are desperate and crazy. the few people on those sites that are worthy of a date fall through the cracks cause of the bs from the crazies. at least from what I can tell

Comment by Jennifer W on March 30, 2011 at 8:14am: I have just quit the website. I dated a few times from it, and I was put off by the males I met from there that had a sense of entitlement. It was weird that it kept on happening. Maybe it was my choice in males, but it was a major league turn-off.

Comment by not shown on March 25, 2011 at 8:48pm: I did the round of dating sites about 10 years ago. It's amazing how fake people are on there, sometimes. I ended up going out at least once with a number of different types of freak before I gave it up. The Mormon, the girl who I knew it wouldn't work but she wouldn't quit asking me out till I finally said yes -- and it didn't work, the psycho who stood me up, the girl that only wanted to cook dinner for her man, praise god and have children (I'm sure she made *someone* a good wife), and turned down the one who told me she'd have to lie to her parents about where who she was with (just like she lied about her age on her profile). All in all, never had much luck with those sites. Of course, being in an intensely religious city and being only willing to consider those of above average intelligence who are also atheists... has led to my remaining single! Well, better to live life true than as a lie... except in the Darwinian sense :)

Comment by Michael Peterson on March 25, 2011 at 12:33am: At least you found out about the crazy before it was too late :]

Comment by Chris on March 12, 2011 at 2:20pm: If you search under Google for atheist dating sites several will come up - including eHarmony. I looked at several of them a few years ago and didn't like the terms of service (read the terms of service carefully). I don't trust dating web sites and have never used them. I've heard to many creepy stories about dating and singles web sites. I suppose skype and telephone conversations could filter some of the problems out. Having said that, I've met and become friends with numerous people through atheist and other special interest discussion groups.

I think it's better to get out in the world and meet someone through a friend or by happenstance.

Comment by Prog Rock Girl on February 2, 2011 at 4:23pm: I don't know why it upsets us to be insulted when we know that what the person is saying is not a true statement. But it does.

I remember someone tried to chat with me on OKcupid, and when I didn't write back within 30 seconds he started saying stuff I like sucks and I should go on a diet.

I had the last laugh, though, as a few weeks later he was trying to chat me up again, apparently forgetting that earlier incident, telling me I look sexy. I was like "oh well, last week you said I was too fat".

Comment by Cory Silver on February 2, 2011 at 3:58pm: Oh, I guess I should give you my email...

silverscreemer@gmail.com

You can ask for anything else you'd like to know through there.

Comment by Cory Silver on February 2, 2011 at 3:54pm: Sorry I didn't explain things better, I was pretty frustrated last night. Basically I wrote you a very nice letter, and hit send... and nothing happened. I was trying to figure out how to make it send, and nothing I did worked, then I sort of lost the letter in the process. So I wrote another letter, and that didn't send either. I reset the computer and tried again, and nothing.

As for "I'm assuming you are hitting on me" well, yeah that was kind of what I had in mind :p. Is there some other way to contact you? An email address or AIM / Yahoo name or something? I'm having trouble with the mail system on this, and don't want to muck up your posts with lots of off topic stuff. Plus there's the whole public thing, I wouldn't want the thousands of other guys that are hoping to win you over stealing all my material :p

Comment by Jennifer W on February 2, 2011 at 7:56am: It's not a Christian dating service. I never got hassled for stating I'm an atheist on it. LOL, Why do people in here have to link negativity to Christians?

Cory, sorry, I have no frickin' clue what you are talking about.... ???
I'm assuming you are hitting on me. I didn't get any email, if you want to talk to me, you don't have to backtrack on your previous attempts. I'm not too hard to talk to.