im currently battling a drinking problem and have a week of sobriety under my belt and attending a group called path ways which is non religious. but my counselor quotes AA and recommends it to me just to go just to take in what other people are going through but the thing about AA is they really can not leave well enough alone and a meeting starts to quickly feel like a church gathering, about four people in the group that i attend have told me that they feel uncomfortable with AA and will not go. AA is one of Manny groups or sights that is christian but tries and passes it self off as an open minded all are welcome group it is not. it is reported that AA has a high failure rate and i can see why you are going through mental hell and overcoming a life threatening addiction and you are getting god shoved down your throat instead of booze you wind up feeling so dejected after one of these meetings that you want to give in to drink just to drown out all that depressing rhetoric. so as in atheist i do not recommend AA and will not ever attend a meeting. it would not be so bad if AA would just cop to it trade alcohol for religion and coffee the latter in which i love. so i will attend my path ways program and i will work on projects to keep my mind busy its to bad that there are not any alternatives for AA in my town i have to go to Seattle to attend a non religious recovery meeting. it is ridiculous that AA has such a monopoly on the sober game things definitely need to change i for one am taking my stand and staying sobriety with out a higher power.

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Comment by Clarence Dember on April 20, 2011 at 11:30pm
That 's it really . With the right information . some
can choose a better path . Reason and volition
and education do make a difference if they are
motivation factors in your sobriety process.
Make it so, your future awaits.
Comment by Joseph P on April 18, 2011 at 7:50am

Hmm, I was about to say something about finding a group through Secular Organizations for Sobriety, but that's probably the group you'd have to travel to Seattle to attend, huh?  There are also several books linked from that page, though.  I imagine you've already discovered that page through Google searches, the same way I have, huh?


I have a significant caffeine addiction, myself, but that's not even vaguely in the same league.  Three or four days of cold turkey, and the caffeine-withdrawal headaches go away.  There's just the psychological dependency to deal with, if you feel the need to quit, for some reason ... which isn't even necessary, unless you have a specific health issue caused by it.


Meh, so I'm kind of useless here, in other words.

Comment by Michael S. Andrews on April 16, 2011 at 11:52pm

I had a serious problem with alcohol during most of my early years, and shy of suicide, I went to AA.  I made it clear that I was an atheist, but wanted needed to begin recovery.  I sat back and ignored the god part and listened to the real stories of fellow alcoholics.  I began to share my story and the healing had begun.

I believe that with real death as a consequence, any means that allows you to escape the clutches of addiction is beneficial. 10 years ago I made that decision to go to an AA meeting.  It was the smartest decision of my life!

Comment by Dorian Staten on April 14, 2011 at 9:45am

First, congrats on the week!  I know how tough that is and I hope you're still doing well.


I'm an alcoholic and have done AA as well as out patient rehab.  I'm not a big fan of AA because I'm not a terribly social person.  I'm not antisocial, I just get anxiety when it comes to dealing with groups, especially when speaking in front of them.


You've inspired me to try putting the bottle down again.  You shouldn't have to suffer alone, so I'll suffer with you.  =)  Today is my day 1.

Comment by paul babcock on April 12, 2011 at 9:29am
I have had various problems with substance abuse of various kinds. Some I got help with and others I have dealt with on my own. In neither case did I employ any type of 12 step program or higher power.

It is a situation quite difficult to understand for someone not involved. Idk that I totaly buy into the disease model. I know however, that some specific change did take place in my brain wiring or functioning such that my cravings were substantially and qualitativly different before and after my addiction. I figure I will have to contend with this for the rest of my life.

Everything that I do understand about this condition runs contrary to thinking that admiting powerlessness and turning responsibility over to a higher power would be a successful strategy. On the contrary, it was my addiction that I alone was responsible for.
Also as I understand the success rate for AA is statistically no better than no program at all, and that there is a parallel secular program, SOS, I think it is called.
Comment by Bill McHale on April 12, 2011 at 8:49am

I've just hit the 20 year sober mark and I went to whole AA route (and a rehab) in the beginning.  Coming from a - shove religion down your throat family - I just went with the flow.  First of all I didn't know any better and secondly I needed big time help.  There's no sobriety without help.  Keep going to the Seattle Meetings..anyway after awhile the head starts to clear and I was not happy in the AA atmosphere.

I stopped going altogether and of course I got it from all sides about I'll not make it with AA's help.  Once I made of my mind and was really ready to better my life without drinking I did what I had to do to not drink.  And I did it without AA.   

It took another 12 years to finally tell my mother I did not believe in god, she's a ardent church goer and in the choir too.  Once I did - I felt free.  Be true to yourself and the feeling of liberation is amazing.


I used the word 'god' mean to me - Good Orderly Direction.  That's it...keep it simple!




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