My fiance and I are both atheists. Recently, he had a discussion at work about religion, and admitted he was an atheist. Most of his coworkers are okay with it, one is teasing him about it (they're friends; it's what they do), but the last one is being an absolute arsehole.
For the last two full days, this kid (he's 19) has been harassing my fiance about his religion. "Why don't you believe in god?", "How do you not believe in god?", "If you dropped a wallet with $5000 in it, and it was still where you left it the next day, who would you thank?" That sort of bullshit. My fiance answered him every time, very politely and respectfully, just as I thought he would do. Sometimes he teased the kid a bit, but nothing mean. For example, when Nitwit asked, "When was the last time you went to church?", my fiance responded, "December, but I got paid to be there." My fiance played the flute for his mother's church's Christmas service, and he explained that to the kid afterward, but the kid didn't believe him.
Then Nitwit started to take a turn for the sinister. "You believe in hell, right?", "Aren't you afraid you'll go to hell?", "You know you're going to burn forever.", and other things that imply that my fiance is an awful person for not believing in an imaginary psychopathic sky fairy. But again, my fiance told me he could handle it. He said that he wasn't too bothered. Nitwit was being annoying, but my fiance answered him the best he could and told Nitwit to leave him alone.
Oh, but then, I went to pick my fiance up from work today. I was early so I visited him as a little surprise. When my fiance had stepped away for a second, Nitwit came up to me and said, "Do you know your boyfriend doesn't believe in god?"
Whoa. Hold the fuck on, I thought. You have no business trying to get my fiance in trouble with me. His religion and our relationship are none of your fucking business.
This was an attempt to get me to yell at my fiance about his atheism, as if we hadn't talked about it. This was an attempt to sabotage our relationship for religion. This was, in short, an attempt to get me to convert my fiance, as if he's the only atheist in the world and I was going to pressure him into trying to do something he can't do.
I wanted to beat Nitwit's head in with the Clue Stick, but instead I smiled and in a bright, cheerful voice I said, "I know! I don't either!" At which point he narrowed his eyes, put his hands up in front of him as if warding me off, and walked away in disgust.
I honestly have no idea what to do here. This arsehole needs to be taught a lesson. He needs to get in trouble with his bosses for harassment, or be otherwise humiliated for being a jerk. He needs to be taken down several pegs, the arrogant twit. Annoy my fiance, fine. Annoy me, fine. We're big people, we can handle ourselves. But try to fuck with my relationship? You have got to be either suicidal or too stupid to live. We're both fiercely protective of "us" as a concept. We have had several people try to ruin what we have from the moment we started dating. I have no interest in dealing with anyone else's attempt to ruin what is good.
And the thing is? He's BARELY RELIGIOUS. He says he's muslim, but he pronounces "Arabic" as "Arboric," and doesn't pray at any of the required times, AND doesn't celebrate any of the holidays. He's the least committed muslim I've ever seen, less committed than Chreaster christians.
My thought was to have my fiance talk to his boss if Nitwit tries to say anything else to him about his religion or lack thereof. I thought he could say to his boss that he's being harassed for his religious beliefs and not necessarily be specific. It's not like a christian would have to qualify that they're being harassed for christianity, rather than any other religion. But I'm not sure, and I'm feeling vengeful.
What should we do? Should my fiance tell his boss? Should we talk to Nitwit ourselves? Should my fiance just ignore him? The last one seems like an awful option, because it enables Nitwit to keep doing exactly what he's doing, and if he doesn't see a private relationship as reason enough not to say anything, he could feel entitled to do worse. That's what I'm worried about.
I'm not paranoid, whatever people have been saying about me, but I'm scared about this and don't know what to do. Thanks very much.