I’m too attractive to borderliners, I think. For the second time in six months a borderliner started to scream at me and attacked me with verbal abuse.

I never suspect a new contact to be a borderliner, but I make room for someone new, give them my attention and listen to what they want to tell me. Most of the time I listen and I don’t talk very much. Borderliners like to talk about the unfair way life has treated them, but hell, everybody is in a bad patch now and then.

There comes a day that I want to talk about something, but there’s never time for it with a borderliner, they’re always running from one crisis into the next one and they need a lot of attention. On that day I think that there’s something unbalanced about this friendship, but the sun’s still shining…

And then one day I utter an opinion, my opinion. WHAT!? AN OPINION?! Without consulting the borderliner! Gross! Detestable! Horrible! You should be beheaded for that! And what’s that? CRITICISM!? You backstabber!

So I break the contact, because there’s nothing else a reasonable person can do. But I start to suspect my other contacts… who of you? And when?      And I check the mirror; too kind, too patient, not dominant enough.. can I be different? Do I want that?

 

I’d love to have an early warning system for borderliners at this point, I’m quite fed up with their disgusting behaviour.

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Comment by Frankie Dapper on August 19, 2017 at 9:26am

Being borderlined illustrates a  paradox. On the one hand it is hard to stomach being exploited and being exploited brings on feelings of anger, enmity and retribution. 

On the other hand if we accept reality of no free will how can we condemn and why should we feel hostility for what is beyond the control and responsibility of the borderliner?

And why am i singing that stinking borderline song from Madonna?

Comment by Plinius on August 19, 2017 at 4:20am

Thanks Joan, and it's a very bad syndrome, I'm really sorry for the sufferers but I find it hard to sympathise with their manners and behaviour. The borderliners I met all wanted to get me in their power, and I don't even know why. They're probably scared.. But with our two patients in tow we don't really need other problems. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on August 19, 2017 at 3:10am

Plinius/Chris, you describe borderline personality disorder perfectly. Yes, it is a syndrome and one we can easily be sucked into. I've experienced it here on Atheist Nexus. Are you familiar with the symptoms and responses? Well, yes, of course, you are, you named it accurately and responded appropriately. 

Comment by Plinius on August 18, 2017 at 11:56pm

Thanks, you made me laugh! I needed a day or two to get rid of the bad mood. Finished!

Comment by Thomas Murray on August 18, 2017 at 3:50pm

Well..maybe you don't have it too bad....Trumps social circle have to put up with his crap everyday....

Comment by Plinius on August 17, 2017 at 5:04am

yes

Comment by Frankie Dapper on August 17, 2017 at 4:40am

By borderliner do you mean person with borderline personality disorder?

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