Am I the Only Single and Looking 30 Something Lesbian on the Nexus?

I came to Atheist Nexus for friends and community with fellow freethinkers. I have found some of the warmest, kindest, most understanding people here. They are like an internet family I sit with each night, and sometimes during the day while I work from home, and I could not be happier to have found them. However, something is missing.

I took three years off dating to get a degree, find myself, figure out what I want in a relationship. I've done that now, and I plan to leave the bible belt again by the end of the year. Now that I actually have a bright future and something to offer the right woman, I am ready to date again. But...the problem is this: one thing I have learned about myself is that I cannot date theists. That is what brings me to the question in the title. Where the hell are all the lesbians on this HUGE atheist site?

I mean, I thought there would be a ton of us here. Really, I did. Maybe I put off the wrong air? Maybe I didn't join the right groups? I don't know. Anyway, I am not picky. My only real requirements are no religion (not a problem here, obviously), no kids, no republicans. I am already looking to relocate to a less homophobic environment, so if I find someone before I do, that isn't an issue. I am a freelance writer/computer geek. I can take my job with me. No biggie. I also am a kind, loving, generous, smart, funny woman who gives her all in relationships. Sooooo where does that leave me? Plugging for dates on the Nexus, that's where. Or at least another gay girl to talk to. :) 

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Comment by LBGT Atheist/Secular Humanist on August 29, 2012 at 10:33pm

Comment by Evolution is the REAL 'truth'! 1 minute agoDelete Comment

Hey, I'm here! Happily partnered for 6 years :)  My suggestion is for you to involve yourself with interest groups that are not specifically religious based in order to meet gals. Many cities have Yahoo groups (GLBTQ) or GLBTQ-related groups (i.e. PFLAG- Parents, Family and Friend of Lesbians And Gays). I commend you for getting to know and accept the real you. Good luck and take care YOUrself first. FYI, PFLAG's have a charter in most cities and have printed and video resources to battle family, friends when they try to use religion against you.

Comment by Zengineer on August 28, 2012 at 1:41pm

I know there is a blonde lesbian girl, but she is, well, 16.

Comment by Shannon Equality Barber on August 27, 2012 at 11:36pm

Awww thanks guys! I am on POF, Viking...but got blasted in the forums, and haven't been back since. On OKC as well.

I am poorly located, Digital, I said, huge plus is that moving for love is simply no issue because I can take my work with me. I'd love it if you were gay, but you're totes awesomesauce the way you are, and I wouldn't change a thing. :)

Comment by Digital Misfit on August 27, 2012 at 10:11pm

I am single and 30-something...I am sorry that I am not gay.

Though we have just met, I can tell that you are awesome.  You are just really poorly located geographically. 



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