This is something I came up with in an EX Jehovah's Witness support group...I sure needed some relief and thought others may too!
Blame and accountability...these are two things that I gave a lot of thought to one year when I attended AA meetings...I was never a real drinker but after tragedy struck my little family, I fell apart.
Being an atheist I had a little trouble with the Judeo-Christian terminology in the 12 steps but the steps themselves were very helpful. I carried a lot of guilt myself, I was a door to door minister and I preached as much as possible,that being the case,the thought that I may have brought someone into the Jehovah's Witness cult and judged all the rest really bothered me. I may have destroyed someone's life with my misinformation.
This kind of guilt can eat you up and that's why I found step 8 and 9 really helpful:
8.) Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
9.) Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
In some ways we are all culpable...so why don't we say sorry???
Really...Why don't we ALL say sorry?
What if we all made YouTube video's explaining our EX Jehovah's Witness status and apologized to all the people that we got at the doors over the years. I know that I would also like to apologize to all the people that we unfairly judged that number being the difference between 6 million people (number of Jehovah's Witnesses) worthy of life and the other 6, 677, 602, 292 people in the world that would be deemed worthy of death. I would like to say sorry for ever thinking that was ok!!!
I would like to apologize to the abused in my congregation that I sat by silent and not knowing how to help. The whole thing was one big cluster-fuck but I think it would be cool to say SORRY...SO SORRY! Sorry we broke up families, sorry we spread horrible abusive delusion, sorry we shunned, sorry we didn't protect the children and others abused in this organization. Sorry for ever teaching people to withhold life saving blood transfusions! There is a lot we can say I'm sorry for.
My husband Mike said, "I volunteer to start the thread on YouTube!"
I would keep it on message about the door-to-door harassment.
I would include:
1. an apology to all the people I bothered
2. thanks to the vast majority of people who treated me civilly
3. what I was taught to think of worldly people (why I was there) 4. what worldly people taught *me* (that religion is something they adopted to *their* needs), e.g., "I am Catholic, but I have my own ideas..."
5. what I have since come to know about being a jw
6. implore them not to let friends/family become jw's
7. sorry I bothered you -- thanks for the patience and have a great life!
That would be my take.
Mike's apology is up on YouTube...thought I would post it here too so's y'all can see:
If there are some without a video camera you can post a written apology in the response comments...I think video is affective but if ya just can't do it...write it.