An apology from an EX Jehovah's Witness. "Sorry I knocked on your door"!

This is something I came up with in an EX Jehovah's Witness support group...I sure needed some relief and thought others may too!

Blame and accountability...these are two things that I gave a lot of thought to one year when I attended AA meetings...I was never a real drinker but after tragedy struck my little family, I fell apart.

Being an atheist I had a little trouble with the Judeo-Christian terminology in the 12 steps but the steps themselves were very helpful. I carried a lot of guilt myself, I was a door to door minister and I preached as much as possible,that being the case,the thought that I may have brought someone into the Jehovah's Witness cult and judged all the rest really bothered me. I may have destroyed someone's life with my misinformation.

This kind of guilt can eat you up and that's why I found step 8 and 9 really helpful:

8.) Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.

9.) Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

In some ways we are all why don't we say sorry???

Really...Why don't we ALL say sorry?

What if we all made YouTube video's explaining our EX Jehovah's Witness status and apologized to all the people that we got at the doors over the years. I know that I would also like to apologize to all the people that we unfairly judged that number being the difference between 6 million people (number of Jehovah's Witnesses) worthy of life and the other 6, 677, 602, 292 people in the world that would be deemed worthy of death. I would like to say sorry for ever thinking that was ok!!!

I would like to apologize to the abused in my congregation that I sat by silent and not knowing how to help. The whole thing was one big cluster-fuck but I think it would be cool to say SORRY...SO SORRY! Sorry we broke up families, sorry we spread horrible abusive delusion, sorry we shunned, sorry we didn't protect the children and others abused in this organization. Sorry for ever teaching people to withhold life saving blood transfusions! There is a lot we can say I'm sorry for.

My husband Mike said, "I volunteer to start the thread on YouTube!"

I would keep it on message about the door-to-door harassment.

I would include:

1. an apology to all the people I bothered

2. thanks to the vast majority of people who treated me civilly

3. what I was taught to think of worldly people (why I was there)
4. what worldly people taught *me* (that religion is something they adopted to *their* needs), e.g., "I am Catholic, but I have my own ideas..."

5. what I have since come to know about being a jw

6. implore them not to let friends/family become jw's

7. sorry I bothered you -- thanks for the patience and have a great life!

That would be my take.

Mike's apology is up on YouTube...thought I would post it here too so's y'all can see:

If there are some without a video camera you can post a written apology in the response comments...I think video is affective but if ya just can't do it...write it.

*** These are just some of the other videos that were made in response to this blog:
"Sorry I knocked on your door!"

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Comment by Ravenone on March 18, 2009 at 10:48am
Hey...thanks for the comments.
Comment by Ravenone on March 18, 2009 at 10:47am
Thanks Sydni, in response to your comment this was part of a discussion that I was having with another atheist in the group.

With regard to my family. In my case the separation was beneficial. There was abuse in my family that was covered up by the Jehovah's Witness,at the local Kingdom Hall as well as the world headquarters in NYC. After I marched in protest with a group called "Silent Lambs" I was cast as an apostate and after they discovered that I was an atheist I was regarded as a Satan worshiper. My family took sides with the abuser and he is still seated as head of the congregation. He was the presiding overseer (although they don't use that term anymore).

I don't think you ever get over this kind of a thing but the periods of peace and happiness get longer and longer over time.

I am an activist in the hopes that I can expose the JW's for what they are,a dangerous and destructive cult. I do it for my kids and for my younger siblings that were victims as well.

I am in no way morose. But the loss of family has been tragic non the less.
Comment by Buffy on March 18, 2009 at 1:18am
Very nice!
Comment by Jude Johnson on March 18, 2009 at 12:01am
We forgive you! We're just glad to have you on the side of Reason! Way to go!!
Comment by Willard Bolinger on March 17, 2009 at 11:17pm
I am a lifelong active atheist and I lived in Kansas City where I invited the Jehovah Witnesses inside and asked questions about certain passages that did not seem right to me. Some stayed for 30-40 minutes. This was aimed at the young people that was there with them. I had pages in my KJV Bible my grandmother gave me on Christmas 1951 and said so right inside the book. I do not know what effect it had but I did what I thought might raise doubts in a young mind that might have some rationally in it and perhaps the older one there also. Willard Bolinger of the Ft Dodge Atheists, Humanists and Freethinkers at
Comment by Rosemary LYNDALL WEMM on March 17, 2009 at 2:13am
You have come a very long way and you should be proud of yourself.
Comment by Jennifer W on March 17, 2009 at 1:29am
Wow, what a noble blog.

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