I have been in Mary Kay cosmetics for 8 years now and when i originally wrote this blog i had been in for 3 years. I grew up in a fundamentalist Christian home. I have been an atheist for about 6 years now and have become LESS frustrated... i was VERY frustrated in the beginning of this change of life....i will leave the rest as it was 6 years ago and update at the end!
Growing up only knowing religious people has made this transition hard for me but more so in my business. I had to change my weekly meetings because my director is too preachy. It never used to bother me, but the moment I came to understand that there is no god, etc. is the moment things started to make me angry....
I contemplated leaving Mary Kay cosmetics, but i love this company and what it truly stands for, which is enriching women's lives but i think its more of enriching people's lives because we now have men consultants. For this reason, I felt that yes it's true that this company was founded in texas by religious people, that Mary Kay Ash was a fundamentalist and that the majority of the people in this company are religious, BUT it is still a company, a business. Private or Not. I am going to let myself leave this amazing opportunity because its only for religious people? That is so insane. I have determined that I am not going to let that difference stop me. Yes it is an annoyance, but i feel that in life we have to learn to deal with people. Most of the world is religious and even though that doesn't mean i have to talk or get along with religious people, i would rather not isolate myself. Plus, many people today are questioning faith and maybe me sticking it out will open someone's mind? Not sure but its worth a try.
I have concluded that I am going to be a proud Atheist and Humanist while still being a Mary Kay consultant. Many of the mary kay freinds know and although they may not agree, they are respectful. I have not heard yet of any sales director or national sales directors that are Atheist, nor any that are bisexual/lesbian. So, since i love this company, i am going to take a stand and work to be a Atheist/humanist, bisexual, Mary Kay director and national director. This company could use a good mind blower and i think its time someone showed them this company is not just for adults with imaginary friends! Can u imagine? A successful National Atheist Director in Mary Kay?! That is a huge statement being made to the religious community and i think its high time its done.
6 years later...
I am a 5 year breast cancer survivor, I have a booming Mary Kay business, and with setbacks of Chemotherapy and surgeries i am very close to our first Mary Kay car and Directorship with the company!! I am married to the man who stuck by my side through cancer and we lost our faith together. So many people have emailed me over the years asking for help with their business. In these 5 years i have learned a LOT. Let me begin by saying this is a personal BUSINESS. It is simple.
That being said, you can CHOOSE who trains you and your trainer decides if they want to train you. There are no have to's in life only want to's. Do I get annoyed with training sometimes and how many people are so religious in the company? Yes. Do i let it get to me anymore? NOPE. Why? Because i know that non theists are the 3rd largest group in the world now, plus the company has made things more secular.. if you haven't noticed, and because i know now that my success doesn't depend on my lack of religion or affect it in any way. There are 2 things that will make you successful in this business.. Here is the secret.
#1 stop giving a crap what others think. This is a business, its math, there are formulas.
#2 Follow the formulas, throw out the religious wording, learn the meat and potatoes and your on your way.
That's it. The hard truth is that people are going to say what they want and feel how they feel and although it may hurt your feelings, you need to understand that none of that matters. The only way it matters if someone is harassing you or going out of their way to seclude you from learning or activities making you feel alone. If you do not want to do the work and forget the haters, then this will not work for you. You have to be willing to gain the confidence to work regardless of what people think of you and that goes for anything in life.
I have had people say horrible things to me and i have ALSO met Top Directors plus my National Sales Director that adopted me into her area who train me with open arms and have apologized on behalf of anyone who said crap to me. My National is a Christian. She believes the way she does and she also thinks to believe you need god to be successful in Mary Kay, is a joke. That business is just business. Don't get me wrong. The woman is a 2 time national best selling author and has been an Evangelical Christian for a long time but she is very cut and dry. She will tell you she wont apologize for her religion and she will tell you if you dont like it, you can leave. ...and she would ask you hold your convictions the same. She is never disrespectful and made me fully understand what i am capable of.
There will be people who read this post that just want to complain how their director doesn't agree with them, there will be people who blame Mary Kay for allowing religion in their company..oh all the sorts of people i have heard from. The people this blog is for.. are not for the butt hurt people who quit this business because they asked 3 of their friends and family and after they said no.. they said it doesn't work. ...
this blog is for the people who genuinely believe in this company and how it can help society. This is not just makeup or skin care. Please understand it is people and love.. not profit and loss. Please understand there is room for all of us to win, not only some. Please understand that life is not fair and those who understand that and are willing to rise up anyways are the ones who deserve success in all areas of their life.
My hope is that this brings you HOPE and the confidence to say. SCREW whoever wants to project their insecurities on you, your going to to this. If you feel you want to contact me, find my on my website and i will connect you with my national and as soon as i'm a director you can be in my go give area. Thank you.
-Future Cadillac Sales Director Stephanie Moreno
My motto is
You dont have to believe in god to be successful in life. You do the work anyways, just give YOURSELF the credit for once in your life!