My wife and I come home today after class and find a package on the porch. Having not yet ordered my books for next quarter I was puzzled as it was addressed to me with a "care of" my Father. I inspected the box and saw "Christian Bookstores" plastered all over the sides. "Uh oh." I muttered.
Contained within along with an apologetic note for missing our wedding... a gift from my Uncle and Aunt on the east coast.
Personalized with our names and everything. I took the bible to my parents tonight and the first thing my Dad says "Wow what a nice bible!" to which I respond promptly "I AM AN ATHEIST! DOESN'T ANYBODY IN THE FAMILY GET THAT?!" (This was in a semi-humorous way but with some serious force.) My Mom then chimed in "Well you don't need to tell your Uncle that... its better if he doesn't know." She flipped some pages and said "See you can chart your children in here and you never know what your kids will believe." I said "Yes, I do know, because this sort of thing won't be pushed on them in my house and more than likely they will grow up thinking freely. Also why would I, an atheist record the birth of my children in a bible when Dad has been working online getting the family tree filled in?" My Dad then said "Yeah but it's tradition." And I said "It stops here." and I left fuming.
Don't get me wrong, I love my Uncle. He is probably my favorite, but he has had some tough times and near death experiences in the Navy so I don't doubt why he may have run back to religion because he wasn't like this when I was a kid. But didn't my other family who attended our wedding and are Bible Baptists to the Nth degree communicate to him that our ceremony was god-less, prayer-less, and devoid of religion purposefully? (Maybe they did and that explains the bible... Quick we need Josh and his heathen Korean wife to find Jeebus!)
Now I have a bible (a huge one... I stands as tall as my MacBook's screen) that I don't want, personalized to KeeYoun and I, and nothing to do with it. I don't want to keep moving it in the future. I don't want it out on a bookshelf. I don't plan on reading it and I don't want to throw it out.
Also now I need to write a letter somehow thanking them for their gift (it did contain a $100 too, which I do appreciate being a student still) but I need to decide if and how to break it to them that KeeYoun and I are atheists (she finally admitted she was to me today) despite my Mom's request that I don't. This makes it more difficult because I do try to still at 28 respect my Mother's wishes.