I’m too attractive to borderliners, I think. For the second time in six months a borderliner started to scream at me and attacked me with verbal abuse.
I never suspect a new contact to be a borderliner, but I make room for someone new, give them my attention and listen to what they want to tell me. Most of the time I listen and I don’t talk very much. Borderliners like to talk about the unfair way life has treated them, but hell, everybody is in a bad patch now and then.
There comes a day that I want to talk about something, but there’s never time for it with a borderliner, they’re always running from one crisis into the next one and they need a lot of attention. On that day I think that there’s something unbalanced about this friendship, but the sun’s still shining…
And then one day I utter an opinion, my opinion. WHAT!? AN OPINION?! Without consulting the borderliner! Gross! Detestable! Horrible! You should be beheaded for that! And what’s that? CRITICISM!? You backstabber!
So I break the contact, because there’s nothing else a reasonable person can do. But I start to suspect my other contacts… who of you? And when? And I check the mirror; too kind, too patient, not dominant enough.. can I be different? Do I want that?
I’d love to have an early warning system for borderliners at this point, I’m quite fed up with their disgusting behaviour.