I hate where I live, hate it, hate it, hate it!!!

I've tried talking my husband into moving, I want to go far away and then we'll have to leave family and friends behind..blah..blah..blah.

There's not even a decent preschool I can send our kids to where they aren't judged. I don't want to go to jail for smacking another mom, but I don't know how much more I can take and I still have 14 years of this!

OK, let me start from the beginning now that I cooled down. My daughter Emma goes to pre-school at our local YMCA. There's only one secular p.s. in our area and it has a 2 year waiting list. Which wouldn't be a problem but Emma is a little (evil) genius and I had to put her in p.s. now to help her adjust to kindergarten for this fall (she's 4 years old). My hands were tied because the Y was the only other p.s. we have that's not located in a church (and I called those p.s.'s and religion is included in their lessons).

Now I know that the Y is a faith based organization, but they don't shove it down peoples throats, so I figured I could handle one school year. But half way through the year (around x-mas time, imagine that!) I ended up telling some of the mothers that I'm atheist. They wanted to know what Catholic school my kids were going to go to, and what church do we attend and so on. After beating around the bush for awhile, I finally told them I am atheist (along with my husband). The moms were shocked and since they've seen how I handle other people talking about religion around me (they're very religious, and are always talking about it), they're still friendly to me. That is all but one of them.

The one mom has a 3 year old, which I also have a 3 year old (Isabel), and since she found out I'm atheist she treats me like I have the plague. I'm OK with that I don't care, but how she treats my daughter I DO care about. Her daughter comes over and sits with us, talks and plays with Isabel and me when we're waiting for p.s. to end. But Isabel goes over to sit by them, she either ignores my daughter or is rude to her. Isabel is very sweet and better behaved then her daughter so it's not my daughter that she doesn't like, it's me and it's because I'm an atheist! She has no right to take it out on Isabel, and the first time I hear her say something mean to her I'm bound to smack her, it's my motherly instinct!!!

I don't want my daughters to ever feel ashamed about their beliefs, the way I used to and I certainly don't want them to ever feel ashamed because of their parents beliefs. But the reprecussions of parents, teachers and other kids finding out could be even worse. It only takes one person to create a problem. Did anyone grow up in an openly atheist home and how did you deal with it at school???

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Comment by vivian on April 27, 2009 at 2:06pm
Very inspirational story (of course, in the non-religious way). I wish your daughter the best of luck!!!
Comment by vivian on April 27, 2009 at 10:10am
they stopped talking to you because you support seperation of chruch and state? that's even worse!
Comment by Brenda on April 27, 2009 at 6:54am
well, my neighbor hasn't spoken to me since I professed my support for the separation of church and state. It sucks to be alienated, especially for kids.
Comment by Tak G. on April 27, 2009 at 5:25am
Whew, this is an issue I worry about a lot with my possible progeny.
Comment by Angie Jackson on April 25, 2009 at 8:31am
Good luck is all I can say. Now's the time to start preparing your daughter for "People believe lots of different things. Mommy & Daddy don't believe in a god. Lots of other mommies and daddies do. Sometimes people are mean to one another based on their beliefs. What do you think about that?" She may have ideas about how to deal with it herself, or at least have some awareness that it's coming. It's unfortunate, I agree. Christians have the benefit of 1) being the majority and 2) getting a kick out of their whole "persecution complex" that makes them feel even holier.



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