In the recent years I have experienced the loss of three family members. I understand that a persons religious beliefs can bring them peace. That is all fine and dandy. For me when someone dies, They are gone. Remembering them in a loving way is the best way to honor them.
I have heard many consoling words."They are in heaven now"., "She is with Jesus now", "He is with his wife", "they are in a better place", Ect, ect. I accept these words as a showing of love and concern. Nothing more, nothing less. I thank those who spoke and grieve in my own way. When asked how I feel or what I think, I usually speak of a time when the deceased had a positive influence on my life and how I will miss them.