I've been absent from AN for some time whilst caring for my ailing Dad. Sadly he died in June and I am just not able to cope/accept it.. I am finding myself very envious of theists because they believe they will see their loved ones again. A vain hope I believe and yet it brings them so much comfort. I would give anything for that level of comfort. No other loss has been as difficult to bear as this one and all I want is to talk to my dad again. How on earth do any of you get through this?

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Comment by annet on August 14, 2011 at 3:56pm
I'm so sorry Anne. The comments you've received are full of good advice. These hard times of life are probably why religion exists but we can get through it without religion. I still mourn my dad 10 years later for all the things that I never told him "in the living years". But I get comfort from the fact that the energy he left in this world lives on in the form of me and the people he knew and the things he did. This sounds crazy but to deal with the sadness I decided to think of his last breath as the wind under the wings of a butterfly.
Comment by Clarence Dember on August 13, 2011 at 12:50am
Hi Anne. May you find solace in the many
wonderful memories you have shared with
your dad. This is how I am able to honor the
life of my father. I carry his good qualities
forward In time bringing them to life as I go.
Comment by Kimberlee Williams on August 12, 2011 at 3:34pm
I remember asking the same question after my dad passed and feeling envious of theists. The only thing that helped me was allowing myself to grieve when others said to move on. I allowed myself the melt downs, crying fits, anger and all of it. In addition to that I put one foot in front of the other each day (one at a time) and surrounded myself with people that think like me. Please know that we are here for you and I am always wiling to listen. Take care of yourself.


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