I am now almost 50 years-old, but around 26 I got a divorce. I know, not the most shocking statement to start the blog with right? Well tell that to the Baptist churches I sent my resume to when I was in the early stages of becoming a pastor. Around the age of 32 I was in seminary and looking to become a “man of the cloth.”
Being raised Baptist I knew I had to let every church I applied with know that I had been divorced. Some were nice about it while others treated me as if I had been a serial killer. Well actually, one church said I couldn’t serve on their staff, but I could be a volunteer or intern. I then asked, “So because I have been divorced I can’t serve on your staff, BUT if I had murdered someone and asked God for forgiveness I could possibly serve on your staff, but because I’ve been divorced I can’t?” The pastor paused and realized how ridiculous he was going to sound when he answered with a “yes’. It was clear to him that the Bible said a divorce disqualified me from ever becoming a pastor. Why that didn’t seem to be a red flag that I was simply moving in the wrong direction in life is beyond me!
So now here I am 15 years later still married to the same amazing woman, but I have divorced the church. According to the Bible a man or woman has the right to get divorced if their spouse is abusive or unfaithful so I figure that gives me the right to divorce them.