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EEK! It's the Ex-Boyfriend!

I got the most unexpected message on my Facebook page.
From an old boyfriend: It was a rather short relationship; I was 17, he was 19, he was movie-star handsome, but completely wrong for me. We did nothing but bicker. He was an extreme right-wing gun-boy and I was lodged firmly to the left. Knowing what I do now, I can see that he had a pretty severe case of ADHD, with all the benefits of short-tempered, short-sighted, non-stop ranting and interrupting every sentence that came out of my mouth. He also had his share of personal hardships, so I always look back on him as kind of a wounded person as well.
I broke it off and he was, for some reason, really pissed. He could have another girl in a heartbeat, as he had been through a few before me as well. A male ego thing, no doubt.
So he is on some kind of mission to set his misdeeds right, and I seem to be on his list of people who he has wronged. I can't tell if this is some kind of religious thing or maybe an AA thing or what.
He was kind of a dick, but just the garden-variety teenage dick, I guess I got over it and don't particularly feel scarred or in need of revenge.
I wonder if he has any daughters now ...
I suppose I should respond and tell him that I have no hard feelings: I don't feel right just ignoring him, but I have no idea of what to write to him.

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Comment by Jennifer W on April 4, 2009 at 10:52am: Lol that last comment made me laugh cowpunk. That would be a cruel joke!!!

Comment by HotMess on April 3, 2009 at 6:47pm: Well, I just realized that he sent this message on April 1st, so ... I'm tempted to take the bait, but I need to be prepared if it's just some weird joke!

Comment by Daniel W on April 3, 2009 at 8:31am: Sounds like he's ED and is working on his Karma.

I've had 2 similar sitations, seemed like both just wanted to know if I was alive and had any hard feelings, then that was it. If anything, it was kind of an empty feeling. One was alcoholic so maybe it was the 12 step thing, I wasn't smart enough to think of that. THe other was rebound from the first and it just wasnt going to work. I wished both well. Living 2,000 to 3,000 miles away does give a saftey zone. Im glad Im older and life is settled.

I vote for the "Ed" thing.

Comment by unholyroller on April 3, 2009 at 12:17am: Just say "Hi", wish him well and back away. Or not. Either way, there is no need to feel guilty about any of it.