My husband (who is a believer) saw that I joined this group and he does not understand why  "I need to make a big deal about religion"( his words). I tried explaining how I felt but he does not understand. I told him for the first time there are people who believe the same as me that I can talk to but he does not understand why I need talk about it. He thinks I just want to cause conflict with his family and the religious community that we live in :(

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Comment by Susanne Norback on November 24, 2013 at 1:17pm

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Comment by Dyslexic's DOG on November 22, 2013 at 8:26pm

I'm possibly the last person to take advice from, since I have no Christians around me to be bothered with, all my family, friends and neighbors are atheists.  You may wonder why I bother with attacking religion, well, I had been doing it for years, when we were surrounded by Christians and it just became a habit.  So now I troll Christian sites just for a laugh.

Though I had the same issue with Facebook, where my wife didn't understand my need to be on it, she thought exactly the same, that it will cause conflict in the family or I might find another partner, since sometimes she lacks self confidence and feels she is not good enough for me, even though I reassure her daily.

I simply said to her, unless I have such an outlet for my personal feelings and such contact with like minded people, I would likely become frustrated and take it out on the family.

So she is now convinced, that unless I have such a personal outlet, it will cause conflicts within the family.

So she is now thankful I have such contacts.

Maybe your husband would feel the same if you could demonstrate that being in touch with like minded people keeps you from getting frustrated and thus it keeps you sane and unlikely to cause family problems, where before Atheist Nexus, you didn't feel comfortable like you now do.

Hope this helps!   :-D~

Comment by B.K. on November 22, 2013 at 10:25am

I guess it's hard for Christians to understand.  But you probably have to keep your mouth shut quite often in the presence of your husband's family when the general consensus in any conversation is just to take religious nonsense and platitudes for granted.  Wonder how HE (your husband) would feel (assuming he's religious) if he had to constanly "stifle" (as Archie Bunker used to say to Edith) concerning some subject that HE cares about.   All you're loooking for on Athiest Nexus is one place where you can speak freely with like-minded people.

Of course SOME people (MY husband would be one) just don't take a lot of interest in religion. I think he just tunes people out when religious platitudes are uttered, not caring enough to take expception or bothering to define his own "theology" or lack therof.  It's just not a subject of much interest to him.  I try to tell my otherwise very opinionated husband (in the areas, say of hobbies like woodworking, home construction or electrical work) that HE would be quite annoyed if he had to listen to idiots on THOSE subjects all the time and allow his silence to be taken for agreement.

Comment by Michael Penn on November 22, 2013 at 8:59am

As long as he is a christian, he most likely will never understand. The christian has no logic or real reasoning. They think you are attacking them and causing trouble to claim you are atheist. They ask why you are angry with god, and might even say "how could you do this to me?" Proof of god might be the bible itself, or the stars in the sky. I was a theist for most of my life, but they just do not get it!



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