My so-called dad was an extreme abuser! I despised him as he abused mom, Sis and me, and after I'd cried out to God until I was blue in the face at 8 years old I finally got it through my thick head and I became an unbeliever!!! Wow, I said it! ... So, how do you forgive a man like that? I didn't! I didn't have the namby-pamby forgiveness of the religious within me! I'm a hard man, and if someone offends me severely, I don't easily forgive! That's true to this day. ... So, I've accepted what is, but no forgiveness!!!