I, as so many others of my generation, grew up in tightly knit christian farming communities with little exposure to "other" races and religions. We were taught that Roman Catholics and Jews were of the devil and the only way to heaven was through the christ.
WW II changed all that. Strong, young men were swept out of the farming communities to go to war or to building wartime facilities. My father and uncles went away for the duration of the war, with the exception of one uncle who was a farmer and needed to produce food for the war effort. My mother and aunts were swept away to work in the aluminum mill in Spokane. We children were left to live with our grandparents who assumed the full responsibility for our care during those war years.
At the end of WW II, everyone returned to the small farming community and then off to big cities to work and raise our families. The old attitudes, beliefs, customs, faiths, traditions and values went with us as we changed from a rural to an urban culture. The family violence of the farm followed us to the city. Except, not every family in the city lived in fear, guilt and shame in our new neighborhoods.
I am 79 years old and none of my children have violence and abuse in their families. Ignorance gave way to knowledge for both men and women. Children grow up with a different value system that abhors violence in the family. The chain of violence is broken.
“Now, if the ignorance of nature gave birth to Gods, the knowledge of nature is calculated to destroy them. As soon as man becomes instructed, his powers and his resources augment in proportion with his knowledge; the sciences, the protecting arts, industry, furnish him with assistance ; experience encourages him, and procures for him the means of resisting the effort of many causes which cease to alarm him as soon as he obtains a knowledge of them. In a word, his terrors dissipate themselves in the same proportion as his mind becomes enlightened. Man instructed, ceases to be superstitious. p. 40
But as his (god’s) perfections and his goodness very frequently contradict themselves, and give place to weakness, to injustice, to cruel severities, we are obliged to acknowledge him changeable, ﬁckle, capricious, unequal in his conduct, in contradiction with himself, according to the various modes of action which they attribute to him. p. 41
~ Baron D’Holbach. 1723-1789. The Law of Reason, La Système de la nature. quoted in published by J. Thompson,