I received a Valentines card from a new suitor who is deeply troubled about my lack of religion and otherwise complete failure to worship his God.


He told me he wasn't sure if I'd like it so I told him I would open the envelope right then.


"What's NOT to like about a Valentine's Day card and well wishes?" I asked myself as I cautiously opened the card and felt it to see if there was a cross inside.


I steeled myself as I read the outside of the card, flipped it open and read the inside, deliberately ignoring the....wait for this...



pamphlet asking if Jesus Christ was my savior.


I counted to 3, smiled sweetly and told him "What's not to like about a Valentine's card?  That was sweet.  But you could have left that other stuff out."

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Comment by Alice on February 27, 2011 at 7:29pm
Odd isn’t it, how everyone is full of contradictions. Just goes to show that our brain isn’t wired to pick up hypocrisy in itself. I’m married to a God believer. But him and his family are all of different faiths and none of them are practising, and none of them push their beliefs on anyone. So that makes it more easy. I can’t say I’d last long in a family full of christians. I think my auntie said that if she had to say what religion she was she would have to say church of England. That’s about as much conviction as my family has to religion! LOL
Comment by Lynn on February 27, 2011 at 10:32am

Alice he's definitely not saving himself.

John, I agree with your base point that most people only practice the idea for the holiday on that holiday!  Valentines day happens NOT to be my favorite for some of the reasons you mentioned.  I love some holidays - as long as I can indeed look back to say we practiced/lived the ideology the entire year prior.

Comment by Alice on February 21, 2011 at 3:35am
Lynn, just curious, but is this the sort of guy who saves himself for marriage?  I kind of like that idea, if I was young and fell in mutual love with someone, but it's too late for that now.... :)
Comment by Alice on February 21, 2011 at 3:33am
LMHO... John...  it sounds like the US is way into consumerism...  It's not so importatant or promoted here....  I fogot, but managed to salvage it by making up a heart felt poem to email my husband later that day....  it was the authenticity of my intention that gave meaning....  like you say, much of this celebration has lost its authenticity and become meaningless...  comsumerisation and waste - leading to pain and unrealistic expectations....  being in touch with your genuine and present feelings is way more giving and authentic, than looking at the amount of money you spend....  if someone is getting pissed off and calling you an arsehole, they've missed the point.
Comment by John Camilli on February 20, 2011 at 8:46pm

Valentine's Day, like all "holidays" are feckless promotions of consumerism and ego. There are expected gifts and costly acts associated with all of them, without which participants are expected to be disappointed or shamed. If you don't get your girl some chocolates, a card and some jewelry on valentine's day, you're an asshole and she's pissed off. If you don't get people presents on Christmas and act all cheery, you're an asshole. If you don't act thankful and cheritable on thanksgiving, you're an asshole. If you don't drink copiously and where green on st. patty's day, you're an asshole. If you don't get someone s present on their birthday and sing that goddamn awful song, you're an asshole.


And I find nothing more bizarre about them than the anticipation of warm feelings and honorable remembrances of the notable past, when people could just as easily feel warmly toward each other on any given day, and could similarly honor the past at any time they choose. Stop all this planned happiness and be happy when you feel like it. Get someone a gift when you feel like it, and honor the past when you feel like it. And if you don't feel like it, then don't do it. Don't pretend so the rest of the world can have their delusion. It's just like religion, so holiday is a fitting name, but it should be a word spat out with contempt, like "bible" or "god," lol.

Comment by Lynn on February 20, 2011 at 8:42pm

@A - I'm trying to teach him to respect the beliefs of others.  He has yet to master that.

See I was also smiling because I really wanted to use some foul words and shock him to his core. 


Comment by Marlon Woodward on February 20, 2011 at 8:27pm
you were far more tactful and kind than I would have been.
You may wish to consider burning the pamphlet in his presence, and check his reaction.
Comment by Marlon Woodward on February 20, 2011 at 8:25pm
why, oh why do these zealots think they are the anointed one brought to earth to ensure the salvation of others?
This is a sure sign of extreme delusion, you may wish to share this site with him, if he doesn't quite get it.
Comment by Lynn on February 20, 2011 at 7:27pm

@All - lmbo. 

I know it's not going to work.  It is interesting watching people deal with the fact that I am a decent human being - and I won't lie, steal, cheat, try to convert them or their family in any way, or chase their children through the village - who happens to be a non-believer.  I know y'all know what I mean.


I keep thinking about the lines from the movie Elizabeth (I'll butcher them of course) where she says to those accusing her of treason and blasphemy "Why do we tear ourselves up over this small matter of religion?" and the one accuser yells  "small matter of religion????? Though it killed your muthah!!!!" 

Comment by Earther on February 20, 2011 at 6:28pm

Don't you wish you could save yourself from the constant spray of religious slime?




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