So I've been on a different forum and when the topic of religion comes up, guess which side I am on.
I've recently been having a civil if unconstructive discussion with someone about the topic of creationism.
This has seriously irritated one guy from Ireland, who has ... issues...both with the church and abuse...and doesn't take kindly to my pointing them out.
So just now I have just received this PM in my inbox.
Subject: Keep Secret Please. EDIT: This subject came from a reply to an email I'd originally sent I'd plain forgotten that fact. He's replied to that original email.
I despise you for refusing to leave the Church and abuse thing alone. I will keep at you the way you have ignored me, till I am barred DICK. You ruined that place. It was
neverlike it till you arrived with your soapbox IKAB and atheism. I will
be after you every chance I get. Know why you are with your parents at
29, no job or love to speak of. You figure it out. I have no doubts you
will send this to the forum admin and I will be banned. They will do me a
GREAT favour. Just to wish you a pleasant life with your cerebralism,
no heart and last but not least, atheism. I asked you reapetedly to
leave it alone, cause it was sensitive to and hurting me. But no. Your
soapbox is more important. I don't like you Richard - DICK, and won't
pretend to, cause you are an egotistical asshole and if there is a God,
someone he will allow you to disappear up it.
Have a good one.
Richard you are an educated man. The Forum is supposed to be about help and support.You have NO concept of the hurt you are causing victims/survivors of sexual abuse. Clerical especially. Please
research this topic do you csn educate your self about the possible harm
done. I KNOW you have isuse with this suject and rightly so. I lived
it. But please please be aware how your talk of all of this can trigger
memories for people. Why are you thinking I am getting so very angry ?
Just educate youself. I have worked with victims/survivors and suicides
from this. So I know what I am talking about. I can't enjoy the forum
anymore cause I never know when this will be endlessly thrown in my face
I know you have to fight it too. But you MUST be sensitive to those hurt by this.
All I can say for now.
I don't despise you. I am just hurting a lot and that means anger.
I will stay away from the forum from now cause the triggers are too many and too often.
I can't advise and support anymore and by all accounts I was doing a decent job.
GOD bless you !
The comment that has sparked this was an (accurate) report of a conversation I'd had with a friend who had told me he'd always had an ambition to bed 'a man of the cloth' I said that was weird and creepy, and he then told me he's actually fulfilled that wish!
He was also an atheist like myself while the other guy had with ecclesiastical ambitions - and it was a very good relationship as far as I learnt - but the man's faith and sexuality were (predictably) permanently at odds. It didn't work out. And his (my fiends) comment to me then
was: "just what the catholic church needs another self-hating repressed gay guy."
So my weird and creepy comment wasn't anything about the church and abuse, it was rather a comment on my friend's...choice of demographic.
I've probably no hope of convincing my inbox abuser with that, I mean what'd be the point?
But I was wondering of enlightened minds of A|N - how would you handle this?