Learned Distrust vs. Learned Trust.
Learned Shame vs. Learned Autonomy.
Learned Guilt vs. Learned Initiative.
Learned Inferiority vs. Learned Industry
Learned Identity Confusion vs. Learned Identity
Learned Isolation vs. Learned Intimacy
Learned Self-Absorption vs. Learned Generativity
Learned Despair vs. Learned Optimism
The painful process of growing up requires facing the things you learn from family and community. They may not intentionally teach you these things. However, you learn them. You learn distrust, shame, guilt, inferiority, identity confusion, isolation, self-absorption, and despair by your daily interaction with people upon whom you depend.
Each stage of development involves looking realistically at what you learned that is not helpful. The learned behaviors either prevent you from going to the next phase or lead you in the direction that ultimately leads to despair.
If you have a clear vision of your preferred future, you can avoid the detours and roadblocks. Sometimes you get off track, and there is nothing wrong with that; it just means you need to clarify your goals, STOP, BREATH, THINK, ACT.
You can learn to trust, think critically, have initiative, take action, define yourself, build intimacy, think of yourself in balance with others, and how to be optimistic.
January 12, 2016