Learned Distrust vs. Learned Trust.

Learned Shame vs. Learned Autonomy.

Learned Guilt vs. Learned Initiative.

Learned Inferiority vs. Learned Industry

Learned Identity Confusion vs. Learned Identity

Learned Isolation vs. Learned Intimacy

Learned Self-Absorption vs. Learned Generativity

Learned Despair vs. Learned Optimism

The painful process of growing up requires facing the things you learn from family and community. They may not intentionally teach you these things. However, you learn them. You learn distrust, shame, guilt, inferiority, identity confusion, isolation, self-absorption, and despair by your daily interaction with people upon whom you depend.

Each stage of development involves looking realistically at what you learned that is not helpful. The learned behaviors either prevent you from going to the next phase or lead you in the direction that ultimately leads to despair.

If you have a clear vision of your preferred future, you can avoid the detours and roadblocks. Sometimes you get off track, and there is nothing wrong with that; it just means you need to clarify your goals, STOP, BREATH, THINK, ACT.

You can learn to trust, think critically, have initiative, take action, define yourself, build intimacy, think of yourself in balance with others, and how to be optimistic.

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Comment by Joan Denoo on January 19, 2016 at 5:49pm

Tom, I like your comment. Of course, 

"pessimism as a result of felt powerlessness. Similarly, optimism is a result of felt power."

"STOP, BREATH, FEEL, THINK, ACT."

Thanks, Tom! 

 

Comment by tom sarbeck on January 19, 2016 at 5:30pm

Joan, I like this discussion.

My experience tells me that both optimism and pessimism are learned.

Since helplessness and powerlessness are about the same, I see pessimism as a result of felt powerlessness. Similarly, optimism is a result of felt power.

To STOP, BREATH, THINK, ACT I add FEEL. Thus STOP, BREATH, FEEL, THINK, ACT. Note that FEEL precedes both THINK and ACT. Feeling gives me the energy to act and thinking tells me how to avoid prison.

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 19, 2016 at 3:26pm

Thanks, Ron! That makes sense. Living in balance is the key to healthy functioning, and you identify that teeter-totter feature of choices. After all, each one of these attributes exists as options. 

Comment by Ronald Murphey on January 19, 2016 at 2:46pm

You can call me anything, but friends go with Ron. Anything is fine and interesting because one vs one learned traits are on opposite side. Yet we have to find a balance and this balance can be different to different person. A similar example can be different objects tipping points are located at different places but it works perfect for different objects to balance out. I am not a Physics student, apologies for not having the term on top of my head. But it is equivalent to mass of object lying in a point of balance. Classic physics and I could relate to that and thought interesting. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 19, 2016 at 2:04pm
Daniel, do you have a strategy when it comes tIme to select new hens? If there is a hierarchy between hens, can you select for peace in the henhouse?
Comment by Joan Denoo on January 19, 2016 at 1:59pm
Ronald, how do you want us to address you? Ronald or ROn? Or?

Can you say more about "interesting?
Comment by Ronald Murphey on January 19, 2016 at 1:43pm

very interesting

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 14, 2016 at 1:06am

Kelly, please call me Joan. I am probably the elder on this site, and I feel the sense of community from all the youngun's who post here who call me Joan. I appreciate your kind words. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 13, 2016 at 8:17pm

Kelly, please say more about learned helplessness. 

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