A co-worker and I were examining a picture of some extreme and very expensive high heeled shoes that were quite obviously extremely dangerous to wear as well as insanely uncomfortable. I commented on how bizarre they were and my younger friend said that they were supposed to make you look sexy.
"Look sexy," I said, "Don't you mean they're supposed to make you look fuckable??
First she looked at me with a slightly stunned expression, which I initially thought was from me using a crass word not normally used in our office, which was out of character for me.
Then I saw the light go on. It hadn't occurred to her before that the extreme quest for the elusive quality of "looking sexy" is actually very demeaning and crass. We are so accustomed to society pressuring women to look sexy that we never think of what it means about our value to our society as human beings. We talked for a while about how easy it is to buy into that set of values.
Looking sexy is just the other side of the burka. Both are traps, and women on both sides of this issue are not free. It's not a matter of morality, it's a matter of being truly free.
Maybe this isn't about athiesm, but it's important.