Let me reiterate something I discussed at length in both Sex and God and The God Virus; If you choose to marry, even a moderately religious person, you will have great difficulty having rational discussions about sex and child rearing. Of course there are exceptions, but they are the exceptions. So unless you are the kind of person that wins the lottery every time you buy a ticket, you might think twice about your marriage being that exception. This is most true when it comes to child rearing. Religion thrives on infecting children. It has highly developed psychological routines that it places in people's minds from an early age, especially the minds of future mothers. Most people get their religious indoctrination from their mothers, less so from fathers. Hence, women are targeted for deep programming in the guilt and shame cycle. Once a couple has children, the religious program will kick in. It is almost unconscious to the infected. If you are secular and want to raise your children in a religiously neutral environment, it matters not what agreements you had before children, reason goes out the window when the religious infection program kicks in. More in a later post.