Marriage and children continued: Even if both of you are secular and agree to raise your children as such, you will find the culture - including in-laws, aunts and uncles, cousins, neighbors - tend to see parents who fail to infect their children with religion as negligent. Unfortunately, they think this gives them license to indoctrinate your children for you. If you were Catholic, they probably would not try to convert your children to be Baptist. If you were Baptist, they probably wouldn't try to quietly teach them Catholic doctrine behind your back. But children of secularists are often seen as fair game for any religionists. Because you are not doing your duty, they will do it for you. It is important to know about these tendencies so you aren't surprised when your mother in-law quietly lets slip to your children that you are going to hell since you are not saved.