I’m 15, my little sister 10 hates me b/c I’m an atheist and mom and dad get her everything she wants. I do my choirs, I go to school. I’m a good kid and my sister has mom do everything for her ( cook for her, clean up after her, even dress her, put her clothes on and do her homework) and she still gets everything she wants but when I want something ( a new c.d. or book) I don’t get it b/c mom and dad say they don’t have any money ( b/c they spend it all on my sister) and then my sis turns to me and says I don’t get anything b/c I’m an atheist and mom and dad agree, they actually say " well, maybe you shouldn’t worship the devil and you would get stuff." she hits me and gets me in trouble and mom and dad don’t do anything but, when I fight back I get hit more. Now I know life is not easy but parents should be. What should I do?

Update: im now 16 and things are getting alot better!! infact my other sis danyelle has become an agostic! hip hip hooray!!!

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Comment by Jules Melvin on January 8, 2011 at 6:58am
ha ha, well when you get out from your parents roof it becomes a lot easier to be atheist and open about it
Comment by Scott Popejoy on April 1, 2010 at 8:41pm
It's rough as hell...well hell on earth anyway, but look at the bright side. You are forging your independence as a young woman against the toughest opponents (yet). When adult life arrives, you will be well ready for it. As for your baby sister, well, the babies get babied in a lot of families, Christian or not...and by your update there is hope yet. Perhaps you girls will ask the honest questions that your parents (and their parents?) were afraid to ask because it would make to many waves at home and with friends? As they get older, perhaps they too will consider...do THEY really believe what they've believed all their lives? or did they feel they HAD to...without question? Be true to yourself. Truth will prevail!
Comment by Robert J. Miller on March 6, 2010 at 11:17am
When off-springs are considered and told they are heathens from their own parents constantly as they are growing up, they don't really get the upbringing that most or should I say others receive. In this hard to do world of ours, you don't really have a choice of who you are raised by. Make the best of it,... and don't do the same to your own children. Confuseus told me that.
Comment by Clint Warren on March 6, 2010 at 7:30am
Wait until you're old enough and then move far away. They will either realize that controlling you isn't going to work and make an effort to repair the damage they've caused...or, they won't. A more immediate approach is to become overtly happy and positive and show them that you're actually better off then they are. Clearly, if you reject fixed absolutes... you're life will be far more interesting than theirs.
Comment by faith the atheist on February 26, 2010 at 1:35pm
I know how you feel my mother and stepfather are christian and my christian sister gets everything.My father is Agnostic and he is much nicer but I don't get to see him much.I like going to his house because I don't have to go to church.Do your parents know that Atheism isn't devil worshiping?
Comment by Ben Brandenburg on February 26, 2010 at 1:06pm
i know its a little late AP but i had similar experiences at a young age so been there done that, I know it sucks to the nth degree really the only thing i can recommend that you ignore these jabs and if you can find a job so your no longer under your parents financial thumbs then you can do things your way. It can be done i did it at 14 its hard and might get even harder but since i can see that you are intelligent young woman you can do it.
~live,laugh,love, be free~
Comment by Robert J. Miller on February 23, 2010 at 11:06am
I suggest that if you young people are having a problem adjusting to home & family life, you should just calm down, grab a good book about Vincent van Gogh. Read a few of his letters, see how his Religious upbringing helped him out so great in his artistic endeavors along with the rest he tried to do to satisfy family members. Can you believe this guy spoke three different languages, taught children in a boarding school, worked since the early age of 14 till he was 21 in the fine art galleries in Paris, London, Amsterdam, and The Hague, selling prints and artist paintings, all from the partnership of his uncle Cent was involved with? Even as a child he was know to draw flowers side by side with his artistic mother, while he made wonderful barnyard drawing, animals, a portrait of his little sister Anna, and many things out of scraps of wood from his preacher dads handy mans carpenters shop. Unfortunately there are not any real books written available out there about his childhood, but you can draw your own conclusions, or I could write you one.
Comment by Emekan A'dem on November 24, 2009 at 1:22pm
...Erm. Can y'all (Kristy and JstN) not have that discussion on this girl's blog? It's not even directly related to her issues anymore. For serious.

I hope you're hanging in there, AP! I just re-entered the page to drop a useful link that may help you feel less alone.
Comment by Chrys Stevenson on November 24, 2009 at 4:20am
Then, tell us JstN, what should she do, where should she go? Given that her parents are unlikely to change their attitude, who do you suggest will take this girl in, care for her, love her, and pay for her education? You? If she is required to stay at home, what government department will force her parents to buy her as much stuff as they buy her sister? I agree with everything you say, I just don't believe it is practically applicable as things are.

As for what does a 15 yo run away have to do with the situation, I know what it's like to be 15 years old and fending for yourself. That's the usual alternative for a 15 year old who decides that living at home imposes too many restrictions and those restrictions don't involve physical or overt psychological abuse. It's also the alternative for some atheist children who decide to stand up for their rights against their Christian parents. They are told, "My way or the highway." It's not a good alternative for a 15 year old girl.

As I said, I agree with your philosophical views 100% but the world hasn't caught up to our philosophical views yet and, meanwhile, we have to provide advice for young people that is, primarily, going to keep them safe and get them educated. My advice is based on what is practical and my own experience as a 15 year old on the streets - something I don't recommend to anyone.
Comment by Chrys Stevenson on November 24, 2009 at 2:57am
We'll just have to agree to disagree, JstN. I've been a 15 year old girl. You haven't. I'm sure Atheist Princess is grown up enough to choose the advice which suits her situation best.

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