In general, when it comes to women I am slow to recognize any signal even when as obvious as a stick in the eye. Being the typical dumb guy, that any woman would turn me down registered as a clear sign that I wasn't trying hard enough. After a woman told me, "I think you're an ass with no common sense. Plus, you're ugly and borderline terminally dumb," I might get the hint. However, though picking up signals still evades me to some degree, I did become good at taking no for answer and moving on without a stake through my heart.
Because of a couple of lesbian friends that I have provided gut-laughs over those years with my ineptness and their purposeful withholding of pertinent facts, I became aware that some women didn't want to go out with me because they were not sexually attracted to men. I don't mind being the butt of a joke; however, it does bother to be offensive, especially when I am unaware of it or should have known better.
Before I remarried, I started asking women their sexual preference and I don't mean their favorite position. Well, that earned me looks reserved for perverts, but asides from startling a few women I feel that I avoided making an ass of myself in that manner again. I say in that manner, because making an ass of myself seems to be my stock in trade.
Okay, now I've said it. Yet, I still think about it, but I'm pretty sure I haven't insulted a woman in that way since unless considering that just being in their presence might be insult enough. I admit to my clumsiness around all women. I'm past it, but I wonder of others. Do other men make the same blunders? Worse, do some men go other lesbian women in an attempt to prove some warped male fantasy?
It never occurred to me. Of course, ignorance is no excuse, but ego led me to places I should have avoided. It still does, but not there. Anybody else have a story?