well.. i've reached out on one of those internet help sites. did state i was an atheist. given the layout of the site could've been missed or maybe just ignored. getting some 'bless you' & 'praying for you' etc etc. guess i shouldn't be too surprised & really i'm not.

just really need to find a secular help site online or offline. 

hunt continues.......


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Comment by Cyn X on July 30, 2014 at 8:22am

appreciate the comment. living in the Bible Belt its hard to find like minded atheists. i have googled for IRL atheist groups & the closest might be in Houston. w/out a car or childcare that just doesn't work. as for attempting to set up an atheist group in my town on my own.. i have hard enough time dealing w/ people online so doing something like that in person...no. besides i have no idea how to go about doing it. i do wish there were some kinda atheist based help group in town. i do realize i need to have real people in real life i can turn to that are not caseworkers from some agency but i'm just not sure how to go about it. i have had some awful experiences w/ local churches, granted few years back so i just don't see that as resource. this idea of hiding my atheism to manipulate a church into helping us...no. not only immoral but would most likely backfire. i'm not a kid anymore. i have a kid. i don't have a car. public transportation is basically non existant here. i use transport provided by my daughter's use of the mental health clinic here..she's autistic. so we do get basic needs met. but i also don't trust this agency given high employee turnover & sometimes unpredictable responses to requests for transport. anyway..it is a complicated situation that i think would be made better by having a friend or 2 i could turn to. i think. not really sure about anything anymore. i did find out last nite from overhearing the staff meeting of my apt complex..they used the apt next door for their meeting & were a bit loud or thin walls or whatever..they are aware of the situation but i have no idea what they will do about it. this is a new management co. that has on their website they buy 'distressed properties'. googled some more info about companies that do that & apparently it is a real thing. these companies buy these 'distressed properties'..bandaid 'em up & then resell 'em. some kinda weird commercial real estate loop. anyway atm i am just trying to get thru the day & see what if anything happens. i do know this not having a Plan B sux. if i ever do get thru this situation in one piece making sure i have a fall back position will be priority one. working w/out a net is just too much. everyone really should have at least 3 months expenses if not more in some kinda savings or safe place. plus at least 1 person who you can turn to locally. i do have a really great friend online but he lives in Sweden & has his own issues to deal w/. its this not knowing what will happen that is just so stressful. i know its something most everyone has to cope w/ but that doesn't really help me cope. i don't know if any of this makes much sense or what if anything anyone can actually do. venting does let off some steam so there is that..i guess. i do know i am so tired of being pathetic. what is it like feeling like you're in control of your own life? heh....    

Comment by Loren Miller on July 30, 2014 at 5:58am

Greets and salutes, Cyn, and welcome to Atheist Nexus.  I'm glad you found us!

No code needed here, Cyn.  Please be who you are, and if you have thoughts to share, feel free.  I'd like to think we've got a bunch of decent folks here, some of 'em pretty sharp, too, and most if not all of 'em motivated to help where help is needed.  For myself, if you need a hand with something, I'll take my best shot, and if I can't, I'll say so.  If someone's better qualified, I'll gladly refer you to that person.

Lately it seems as though it is getting a bit easier to be an atheist in this world, though there are still plenty of potholes in the road.  Around A|N, though, you should find the pavement pretty smooth.  Best wishes.

Comment by Cyn X on July 30, 2014 at 4:25am

Howdy. :)

Comment by Earther on July 29, 2014 at 11:07pm
Hi Cyn.
Comment by Cyn X on July 29, 2014 at 9:29am

not so much a hurt..i think..as a situation. one that has reoccurred. living situation sux & stuff keeps happening so i know i need to move on..literally. its just lotta stuff has to come together for that to happen & i don't see it working out any time soon. i think a huge part of it is just plain old trust. its like i feel the need to speak in code in order to protect myself so i wind up sending a garbled message. kinda damned if i do/damned if i don't. anyway.. what i need more than anything esle is rebuilding some kinda IRL support system. damn scary face to face stuff but at least i could be more sure of who/what i'm dealing w/. its just being in the Bible Belt everyone's knee jerk response to making/finding friends...'go to church!' failing that ...go clubbing. not only do i not have the means for either i just have no desire to ever set foot inside a church or a bar/club again. & transportation & childcare are huge issues to becoming social IRL too. so just feel stuck. i know...whip out the old violin & play a sad song. yup i am in low self pitying mood atm & should get offline & go do something else......but thanx for responding. :) 

Comment by Michael Penn on July 29, 2014 at 9:17am

It depends on what kind of hurt you have as to what person or site is going to help you. Being specific might make people respond more. I know that when my wife decided to live in another town 40 miles away I was not so happy, but I knew of her ideas on this for over a year, and now it's just something I have to live with. Although she has just turned 35, she is now an "old friend" and no longer a love interest. Hurts need to be addressed but life must go on.



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