“The orgasm has replaced the Cross as the focus of longing and the image of fulfillment.”
Malcolm Muggeridge, “Down with Sex” (1966)
”Is it not strange that desire should so many years outlive performance?”
William Shakespeare, 2 Henry IV (1597-8)
“The sex instinct is one of the three or four prime movers of all that we do and are and dream, both individually and collectively.”
Philip Wylie, “Generation of Vipers” (1942)
It’s no secret that religion is obsessed with sex and that control of sexuality is one of the ways it maintains its hold on people.
Religion interferes in the most intimate aspects of sex, sometimes with awful consequences. E.g., as a humanist, I find the Catholic Church’s attitude on contraception loathsome because it contributes to overpopulation, poverty, and misery.
Because of religion, people routinely sexually mutilate their children (why a piece of the penis, when a bit of the earlobe would do?). I was appalled when I heard about what they do to girls in some parts of the world. When will these fucking idiots join the 21st century?
Religion and repression
Since religion trades on the repression of lust, true believers (polygamous Mormons excluded) have to work hard to repress their carnal urges. Here’s the latest, From Funny Times’ “News of the Weird”:
“An AP report from Jerusalem noted that the Orthodox community’s ‘modesty patrols’ were selling eyeglasses with ‘special blur-inducing stickers’ that fuzz up distant images so that offended men will not inadvertently spot immodestly dressed women [i.e., 95% of all women – AMP]. (The stickers apparently simulate nearsightedness. . .) The ‘modesty patrols have long tried to shame women dressed in anything other than closed-neck, long-sleeved blouses and long skirts, but may be losing that fight. A columnist for the Tel Aviv daily Ha-aretz praised the eyeglasses for shifting the responsibility to men for their priggishness.”
ROFLAMO. Laughed so hard I cried for these pathetic people and their dress codes. The fact is that inevitably some women will dress to flaunt their sexuality. The vast majority will show a little skin as a matter of course. Too much for the ultra-Orthodox. Yes, these lewd Jews ARE responsible for suppressing natural reactions (as Jimmy Carter said, you can have lust in your heart).
The eyeglasses are SO Jewish! Solve a non-problem with a non-solution. Bill Maher, in his documentary Religulous, visited a store with special Sabbath products, enabling people to avoid the 36 (I think) definitions of “work” prohibited on Shabbat. There was a phone that dialed by interrupting (not creating) a signal. A wheelchair that apparently involved no work on the part of the paraplegic. Maher asked, “Why go to such trouble to appease the God that put you in the wheelchair?” No answer.
But at least kudos to the men for taking responsibility.
Religion and sex: Why?
Why the obsession with lust? One answer comes from Lynn Parramore, Reader Supported News, 20 October ’12:
“Monotheistic religions like Christianity are especially patriarchal and tend to be built on the denial of the feminine and a special abhorrence of those flesh packages known as ‘bodies.’ If you're only going to have one god, that god is probably going to be male, and so you've got to suppress the female element of spirituality so that He doesn't have any competition. Women are associated with the processes of nature, which can be scary, and you've got to do something about that, too. They give birth, and anything that is born must die, which is an unpleasant thought, so to get rid of that you just go around pretending that life is eternal and that everything really springs from the Great Celestial Father. Pretty soon you have concocted possibly the most unnatural idea in human history: The Virgin Mother.
“Polytheistic religions don't tend to operate this way, which is why you can see male and female gods frolicking with abandon on the walls of ancient Egyptian temples. Which is also why the Second Commandment in the Bible tells you not to ever, ever look at them. In fact, you're really not supposed to look at or think about bodies at all. They are inconvenient encumbrances to your eternal life, and the sooner you get rid of them, the better. Anything that upsets the fragile order of this strange system where males are celestial beings and women are nasty creatures whose bodies reek of dirty sex -- like gay love, for example -- will have to be squelched at all costs. Holding all these contradictory thoughts in your head deforms the mind into a labyrinth of twists and turns and on top of that there's a phantom floating around in there.” At http://readersupportednews.org/opinion2/277-75/14093-why-does-sexua... .
The other extreme
This is by no means to excuse non-Orthodox or secular men generally. Some go to the opposite extreme, totally objectifying women in the gazillion-dollar porn/strip/prostitution industries. What these industries offer is seductive, compliant women, not real ones, who are sometimes non-seductive and non-compliant. Men pay big bucks for fake seduction; they want the real thing so badly that they'll settle for the fake.
Men thinking with their little heads: a truism, uttered with contempt. And rightly so. Men thinking with their little heads are men on the make, damn the consequences. Hitting on women – that was one of the things I hated about being single. Always it’s the male who has to make the overtures and risk rejection. No wonder he has to abandon reason and let his cock do the thinking.
ADDENDUM/Breaking news: An army general commits adultery with his hot, bright, overachieving biographer, ruining a marriage and a career. Sigh. Men are pathetic, and the smallest or biggest of men (e.g., Slick Willie) are reduced to a worm governed by its little head. Petraeus is the latest. The little head knows no satisfaction, no matter how lovely one's mate (High Grant). It does not have the capacity to contemplate consequences.
All the high-status men just mentioned are no better than the drunken lecher trying to pick up a woman at a bar. The little head rules.
When I first read Nietzsche on self-overcoming, I was too young to grasp the full import. Then I grew up, learned my many faults, and began to understand the what I had to overcome in myself. One thing to overcome is that one must always be chasing pussy.
SO may things are done to impress women – it’s pathetic. Sports, war, auto racing. Men take advantage of power situations to hit on women, even in this age of extreme PC. (Clarence Thomas: You know in your heart that you hit on Anita Hill.)
Lust and indignity
I have no answers. Monogamy isn’t the answer for most people. Only a few get to have lifelong, sexually satisfying relationships. So lust leads men to some pretty undignified behaviors. It’s fine to appreciate feminine beauty, but maybe, for men, less panting and more dignity are in order. On the other hand, what do I know?