This blog is on sexuality in general, encompassing homosexuality and heterosexuality.

I went to college for psychology with a concentration in sexuality and human relationships. Through my exploits of sexuality and human interaction I have noticed a few things.

1: Everyone can distinguish between an attractive male AND female. For instance, I am straight but if I see an attractive guy I am comfortable enough to say so.

2: Everyone likes to feel good about themselves. Regardless of your sexual PREFERENCE a complement of how attractive you are hold basically equal bearing from and male as it does from a female. Thanks Dallas ;)

I personally believe that everyone has the potential to be gay or straight. I believe that people are people and are attracted to one another regardless of gender. However I don't believe that people are gay because the choose such a decadently luscious lifestyle. There are a few theories on the market right now.

1: Hormonal exposure during the gestation period. I think this a possibility but I think it is the more likely candidate for transgender.

2: It is a part of evolution to check human populations. Possible, nature does have mechanisms for regulating populations of organisms.

3: Choice. Bullshit! What 16 year old kid chooses a lifestyle to get the shit kicked out of him and ostracized by his family?

I believe that society has put a hamper on human sexuality. We are not allowed to pursue and discover our sexual potential because of society. Guys won't admit they they think Robert Downey Jr. is attractive because society frowns on it as being a 'fag'. As a matter of fact I can actually name more actors I think are attractive than I can actresses. Once people become comfortable with what they actually think and feel I think we will see an increase in sexual exploration.


I think that humans have so much sexual potential because of our brain development. We have a complex parietal lobe and it functions in conjunction with our frontal lobe. Because we have a highly evolved cerebral cortex we can experience sexuality in a totally different way than other species on this planet.

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Comment by j on February 11, 2009 at 12:26am
and it is a forced dichotomy: intersexed children are unwillingly reassigned. I was listening to some liar on the BOT (whatever) radio network say "there is no third gender." No dip, because of our prejudice within this homophobic society, doctors butcher infant genitalia...

We would be a better people if we were not told by simple minded bigots that you can only be a "man" or a "woman..." These are the same hypocrites that USED to talk about the sin of mesegenation...
Comment by Adam Johnson on February 10, 2009 at 4:14pm
You are absolutely right about that. Some interesting studies have been done that show that even without testicles men still have a sex drive. I think it is due to conditioning. After a while your body gets conditioned to acting aroused in certain situations. But without testicles men lose their sense of self and without the hormones they lose so much more.
Comment by Adam Johnson on February 10, 2009 at 4:00pm
That is sad. Religion is such a dam in the path of our rushing evolution and advancement.
Comment by Adam Johnson on February 10, 2009 at 3:59pm
Homosexuality in other species does nothing more than reinforce the idea that homosexuality is a natural thing. Beyond that sex is totally different to humans than most other species on the planet. There is a clan of chimpanzees where all the females partake in homosexuality behavior except to procreate.

We have seen homosexuality in canines but know that it is a show of dominance not sexual. Sex in apes is very different because of our brain development. And as the brain size increases to homo sapien it becomes even more complex.
Comment by Adam Johnson on February 10, 2009 at 3:29pm
That is a hard thing to pinpoint. There are things that happen mentally when someone is raped, especially at a young age, such as PTSD. That could cause that sort of behavior although I can't be sure. What I can say is that he would fall into that gray area. Whether he did that due to the trauma of being raped, because he was lonely, or he just wanted to for the sake of it he would still fall into that gray area. Beyond that I don't feel qualified to make too many assumptions.
Comment by Rickr0ll on February 10, 2009 at 2:50pm
The last part of this essay deals specifically with animal sexuality- so i don't doubt at all any of the point that you say, only to reinforce that Secuality is conditioned by the social structures and survival needs of the species.

I know it's really really long, but it was great!
Comment by Adam Johnson on February 10, 2009 at 2:44pm
This blog is from the perspective of strictly sexual so discussing relationships wouldn't really fit into it. I can however discuss it here. Let me use bi-polar as an example. Psychologists know that bi-polar disorder is a genetic disorder. They also know that there are triggers in the environment which can cause bi-polar disorder to be expressed in real-life. However psychologists also know that one can have bi-polar disorder and never have any "symptoms".

Now this translates over to homosexuality in this way. There are people who genetically have the potential to be gay but never realize it until they are molested by their father, raped, etc. I think that people look at this as choice when it isn't. There are also people who are raped, molested, etc who are straight. There is no correlation between environment and sexual preference beyond triggers.

Secondly I think you are looking at this as very black and white. I realize I discussed this as black in white but that is because I was only talking about the black and white areas. There is always a gray area which you fall into. For instance, I am genetically straight. I only feel romantic love for women to a great extreme. If I slept with a guy it wouldn't make me gay or even bi, I would still be straight. Dallas, conversely, is genetically gay. He only feels that extreme romantic love for men. However if he slept with a woman it wouldn't make him straight or bi, he would still be gay. The gray area is where one can feel romantic love for either gender. There really is a reason why it is call LGBT. To express humans we could say LGBTS and add straight to the end of it. That truly is human.
Comment by Rickr0ll on February 10, 2009 at 2:27pm
i better copy that if comments are gonna disappear lol. I'm a witness Dallas! I saw both versions of your comment :)
Comment by Rickr0ll on February 10, 2009 at 2:26pm

I actually have always been bi. I don't think any amount of anything changes your orientation- You are fundamentally one or the other, once you reach a certain age in your intellectual and psychological development. One of the hallmarks of humans is their sheer power over their nueroplasticity, so i do feel it incredibly pertinent to point out. Almost no one is completely straight or gay.

Therefore, society as you pointed out, must remain a strict hold over the sexual practices of it's constituents. However, if we must talk about regulations, we have to admit we are the most sexually free creatures on this planet.
Is it part of population dynamics? study other animals! Homosexuality is FAR from a human experiment alone- almost all mammals do it, in some fashion. So that is a very testable statement.

A disclaimer: My flexibility has nothing to do at all with choice- but in my ability to express myself better. For that matter, i think that you can be "forced" into homo-eroticism psychologically. I don't think you Can choose what happens to you in your life (and no one can trust me), but up to a certain point, your sexuality is malleable and changeable. It is definitely not the case that our brains are as "springy" as we grow older, and we steadily change during early childhood later on our teen years. But if you turn out to be gay as a teen, you have most likely been gay pretty much your whole life, your sexuality would have been built around the concept of homo-as opposed to hetero-sexuality.

I actually think for the most part sexuality is an act of exclusion, on a individual basis that develops further into broad categorizations. Dallas, you are a perfect example. you are a five on the scale- it goes from 1 to 6. I'm definitely like a 3.5 lol ;)

But this post has several problems: it doesn't discuss any effects relationships and interactions with siblings, parents, friends, ect have on our sexual orientation (and we know this can be extremely negative, but few are willing to understand that a lot of it is subconscious emotions and attractors being processed daily.). Now, our psychology is a great deal dependent on initial conditions, we know this, and there is most likely a mixture of the first two options (the 3rd isn't even a explanation. It has the same merit as an explanation for a murderer's motives given as "he just wanted to.") ; however, i can say that there is a level of choice. But even if it were a choice- and for me, pursuing boys is turning out to be much more satisfying to me than the alternatives, so i choose it- there are still underlying reasons.

Rickr0ll- the Energizer Bunny of yap.
Comment by Adam Johnson on February 10, 2009 at 2:07pm
Your post didn't disappear, its in Secular Sexuality group discussion. I replied to it.



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