I am a sexual assault victim's advocate in Texas. The one constant that I see on a regular basis is the undying need to believe that a god has protected the victim from death, or somehow povided a cell phone to call for help. Of course when I'm at he hospital with the victim and their family, I keep quiet and remember that this is not the time or place for a theological discussion or debate. I do not participate in their prayers, but I do not act negatively to them either. Some call this backwashing, I call it keeping the victim priority #1, to me this is a very tender and emotionally charged event that needs the support of love, kindness, and a non threatening enviroment.
However, when I give speeches on the topic of sexual violence (rape, incest, molestation, etc), I am often hit with the questionable statements of "Thank God you survived that"; "Thank God your father went to prison"; "Thank God you turned out alright"; or my favorite "You have been truly blessed with all God has given you". I often here other survivors of sexual assault who go on about how they couldn't have got through it without 'God' being there for them. Do you think it's possible that some human minds are so indocdrinated that it is virtually impossible to allow room for giving oneself some credit for recovering? Can you imagine how great things could be if people did allow their mind to say "Hey, that was horrible, but what am "I" going to do to help myself?" I find it odd that any rational human can give thanks to something without acknowledging that this entity was there and watched for a little while before allowing an escape or allowed the perpetrator to stop the crime (if he/she didn't kill you first). This must lead you to question the little babies we see raped and murdered on Tv. What horrid plan does on need to have that would include the torture and murder of our most innocent?
I would like to start adding atheism to my speeches, not in a combative way, but in a way to let people know they are strong enough to recover without the need for a sadistic entity. I have been told I'm angry at 'god' for allowing my crime to happen, and that is the furtherest thing from the truth! It's hard to hate what I truly believe doesn't exist. I was an opportunity that came along, I do not believe I was turned away by any god. But, to believe there is a god means you have to believe that it feels some people should suffer great trauma and death; regardless of the victim's innocense. This tells me that even if there were a god, it would not be worthy of the praise it get's.
Does anyone have any thoughts on my speeches? How do you think it could impact the population to give their self credit for healing?