I saw the post about coming out to one’s parents as an atheist, and I started thinking yet again about this subject.
My parents never ask me about religion anymore. I don’t discuss it or live in pretense that I am a Christian. However, I feel that allowing them to believe I am still of that mindset is almost as bad as pretending to be a believer. I know that telling them would hurt them immensely, and that coming out as an agnostic/atheist would not improve our relationship. The only benefit of coming out would be to ease my own conscience. Is that fair? A few members (maybe two) of my family know, and nearly all my friends - I don’t hide it, I just don’t discuss it with those who would find it offensive or hurtful. There are some things I find inappropriate for discussion in certain company, or I simply do not want to deal with the resulting confrontation or conflict - this is one of those subjects.
There are many dysfunctional factors in my relationship with my parents. I don’t know what damage that renouncing faith in their god and their religion would do to the already fragile foundation of that relationship. On the other hand, in the spirit of “love me as I am”, maybe shielding that relationship, or allowing it to survive based on false assumptions of my faith is too wrong. I just cannot reach a conclusion that I am actually comfortable with.
Should I come out?