Ok here's the deal, Yes I called St. Vincent De Paul for financial help, because we have had troubles with paying a few bills, and they came by to help us, like they always do, and I am thankful for that. Don't get me wrong. They gave us a list of places to try to get more help.
Now the one thing I dislike every time we ask for help there is, "are you affiliated with any church?" and in order to not offend and to receive the help we just go no. then they give us a list of churches in the area. and then they ask "are your kids baptized?" and we say no because we feel religion is a choice, and if they want to get baptized then they can when they are adults. "well you are the adults you get to make that choice. they won't know about religion unless you show it to them." yes i know this, and my daughter did go to church. (I allow my kids to chose what they want to do for the most part. Like if they want to watch a horror film with me, then they watch all but the really gory and they are NOT allowed to watch they sex scenes, i am not ready for the mommy what are they doing and why talk yet)
if they want to play outside instead of inside on the boobtube video games, awesome they play outside but they have to ask if they can go here or go there so I know where they are. Not unreasonable.
And when it comes down to religion, I let them know the good and the bad. Which everything does have a good side and a bad side.
But just because you are helping me with money because its "the christian thing to do" does not mean you can tell me whats good and whats bad, how to parent, and why I should take my family to church.
If it's the christian thing to do, you don't have to announce it, hell I do nice things for people because random acts of kindness and paying it forward are 2 things I am learning how to do just because I want to, not because its "the katrina thing to do" thats ridiculous.